We have been separated for 3 years. In that time we've had our ups and downs but have kept all our animosity hidden from the dc's. That is until recently. My ex is now going through difficult times and has started talking to our ds about being very angry with me. A lot of what he tells our ds (7) isn't actually true but my problem is this - how do I help my ds cope with all this? I have asked exh not to inflict his bitterness on our dc's but the way things are at the moment, the more I ask him to do one thing, the more likely he is to do the opposite. I also asked him to attend family mediation but he has refused. My ds now comes home after contact with his dad, very low and often becomes tearful. When he tells me what dad is saying, there seems to be very little I can do to make him feel better. If I disagree with the comments his dad has made, he says he doesn't know who to believe and becomes more upset. If I say nothing, he is resentful towards me for the things I've 'seemingly' done according to his dad. Exh only has the dc's for one weekend every two weeks (his choice). He also spends most of the time playing inappropriate PS3 games with them when he does have them. And yet my ds worships him and will not have anything bad said about him, which I can totally understand but find so difficult when his dad is spouting all this nonsense about me.
How do I deal with my confused, upset little boy? My dd (5) seems far less affected by it all and just skips about in a wee sunshiney world all the time - it's a blessing. But my ds is far more sensitive and I worry that all this negativity from his dad will create resentment from him towards me. As well as making him a very insecure, troubled wee soul. Help!
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doughnutdolly · 05/05/2013 16:59
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