Hi mums
I will be moving from Turkey to the UK with my two daughters, who are 8 and 12 years old.
I lived in London for 12 years before moving to Istanbul. I was single then, and life was good in London.
Now, with the kids, I need some advice.
My 12-year-old has some English, but 8 year old can’t speak much. I am considering state schools to start with and try for 11+ and 13+ exams for grammar for both kids. Possibly private education from year 10/11 year onwards.
I have a close friend who lives in Royal Tunbridge Wells, so I considered that area. There is Bennett Memorial - a Christian school with great GCSE and A-level results. However, we’re not Christian, so I’m worried about being left out even if they could get a place in the non-Christian category. There is also Skinner's Kent Academy, a non-religious state school, "good" by Ofstead.
I lived in Beckenham, Bromley, and Dulwich between 2002 and 2012, and I liked Bromley most.
My primary motivation for moving to the UK is education. However, I want to be in a nice society where I can have friends, play tennis, go for walks, and have some parks, maybe Riverside and a shopping center when it is cold and wet. With all this, I considered Kingston to be a good area, and good schools are in Ham and Twickenham. However, I don’t know this area as I don’t know Royal Tunbridge Wells.
I am a white-collar worker working from home on a contract, and I may need to work in the long term. I will be away from my husband, who will be staying in Turkey, and he will try to visit us as much as he can.
It is a tough decision; my initial question is, would you prefer London versus Royal Tunbridge Wells? I don’t want kids to feel singled out one day andn’t have their father around. Also, I want to be able to socialize. At the same time, living in London is more costly, meaning less housing quality. I plan to rent a flat, and my budget will be around £2500.- 3000 at the max.
I look forward to your opinions, Mom. Thank you so much in advance.
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Move to London or Tunbridge Wells with 2 daughters?
Hellenhellen · 06/03/2024 17:01
LIZS · 06/03/2024 17:16
And for private schools intake is usually year 7 or year 9 with occasional vacancies in year 8.
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HRTea · 06/03/2024 20:14
Gosh are you sure you want to do this. I totally admire you for considering a move for your children's education but they aren't toddlers and it's going to be incredibly hard for them.
As others have said it won't be easy to get places at the most desirable schools given their ages. Your eldest only has some English, your younger daughter barely has any. You are uprooting them from their home and their friends to come to another county where they aren't fluent in the language, it will be frustrating for them if they are academic and struggle to keep up due to that and most importantly they will only see their father when he can make it over.
I'm going to assume you have a long term right to work in the UK but with kids that age I think you've got an incredibly tough few years ahead.
Good luck, it's a huge decision and i think you have bigger things to think about and a need to fully research school options and the UK school system before deciding on an area in which to live.
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