My dad (66) has leukaemia. He’s been in hospital for months and at one point it seemed he was going to be ok, but the past few days have been bad. Really bad. The treatment is no longer working and he has a few weeks left. I am overwhelmed with grief, I physically feel like I’ve been hit by a truck.
DD is 18 on Sunday and is doing A-levels and DS is 15 and is doing GCSEs. I don’t know whether to tell them yet. They know what is going on in terms of him having leukaemia and being in hospital, but not how bad it is. My mum wants me to wait until the last possible minute in the hope that he will last until after their exams, but I hate keeping things from them. DD especially will be distraught. She loves her grandad so much, but she cannot fuck up her exams. She needs 3As. I just don’t know what to do and any advice would be very much appreciated.
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Life-limiting illness
Do I tell DCs their grandad is going to die?
Tabbytabs · 20/05/2023 06:58
GloomySkies · 20/05/2023 07:07
Tell them. My parents didn't tell us how sick our grandad was when we were teens so his death came as a total shock.
Frenchfancy · 20/05/2023 07:06
At that age they are not stupid and probably already have an idea. I don't think there is anything to be gained from putting numbers on it.
Protect them if you can until exams are over, but if they ask directly tell them the truth.
I'm sorry you are going through this. 66 is so young.
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