3rd, 4th, 5th(!) babies do they come late or early?

[1dilemma]

OK dp and I are discussing

I know folklore is the third labour/birth is diferent from the others.

What about subsequent ones? I told dp I thought they reverted to the old pattern ie if first and second were late they usually are too, he thinks they get successively earlier

thanks

[popsycal]

afterpains progresively worse wuth ds2 and ds3

[popsycal]

ds2 should be 40 mins not 409 mins

[thisisyesterday]

oh and yes, my afterpains were worse with ds2, and with ds3 they were agonising, just like having contractions all over again
would put me off having another

[thisisyesterday]

mine are first contraction to out. if it's waters brteaking then... had them broken for the first 2, so maybe tat doesn't count, but for ds3 waters went and he was out oooh, 5-10 mins later

[popsycal]

oh god are we taklking waters breaking to out?
ds1 - 2 hours
ds2 - 1 minute
ds3 5 minutes

[popsycal]

ds1 induced 2 weeks early
induction to birth around 4 hours
ds1 one days early - first contraction to birth around 409minutes (no typo
ds3 - 2 weeks early - first proper contraction to birt about 40 minutes

maybe i am just a freaky birther though

[thisisyesterday]

ds1- 40+14 (18hrs, ventouse)
ds2- 40+1 (6 hours, fabulous)
ds3 40+7 (45 mins, very intense)

[CarmelaDeAngelis]

I did not find after pains worse after each child! I barely had any with any of them!

DC1 40 + 8
DC2 37 (induced)
DC3 40+ 5 hours!
DC 4 was on time - CS - unstable lie (transverse to footling breech). However, I was going into labour on the day of the cs - so would've been 40 or 40+1 in anycase!

[bronze]

+6 days

• 6 days
  

• 3 months
• 9 days (though I think nearer 20)

[1dilemma]

Thanks all

sunshine imagine how you'll feel if number 5 is late!!!

[sunshineday]

for me it goes like this

dc1 1 day early
dc2 9 weeks early
dc3 12 weeks early
dc4 14 weeks early

just found out Im having #5 so will let you know

[bigcar]

stressed, it's good to hear the broodiness gets easier! That's just the thing, going for a no 6, however nice just isn't worth the risk Scar rupture definitely wasn't pleasant, luckily I had a pretty clued up midwife who did something as soon as it was spotted, only half my scar had ruptured along with my bladder and bowel by the time they opened me up, I consider myself and my ds2 pretty lucky really.

sobloody, spot on about the afterpains, get strong pain killers before hand if you can.

[elvislives]

hollyfort we do actually now have a dd2 (but she was a CS so I didn't include her on the stats )

She was born 15.5 years after her nearest brother (and 21 years after her sister)

[sobloodystupid]

My mother had nine children and her last was the worst, in terms of labour, pain and recovery she said. She said that people felt that the baby would slide out when he did anything but! Tbh that's all she's ever told me about childbirth, I'm expecting No 3 so am lurking with interest. My first was one week early, the second induced one week late, so on average I'm bang on time
Afterpains get worse after each child mwa ha ha

[stressedHEmum]

Bigcar - the one thing that I am thankful for is that I managed to avoid a section every time; but my older kids were born in the days when they left you pushing for hours and hours and with dc5 the consultant was reluctant to intervene becaue I had never had a section before. They were actually prepping me for theatre when the new shift midwife (v. experienced) managed to heave him out!

Can't imagine how horrendous it must be to rupture your scar. My friend has 3 kids and won't have any more because she has had 3 sections and is scared this happens to her.

Re the broodiness - it does get easier. DS4 is almost 7 now, and although I do hanker after another, I realise that it's really not to be (I'm pretty far the wrong side of 40 now, as well) and I wouldn't really want such a big age gap, anyway. So, I just coo over other people's babies and enjoy the kids I have. At the end of the day, it's not worth risking your life over and leaving the 5 we already have motherless, which was a close call last time, really.

[hollyfort]

hi elvislives, couldn't help but notice that you have same family as myself, dd and then 3 ds's, just wonderin out of curiosity did you ever feel like going again for the chance of a sister for dd! I know there is always a 50 - 50 chance but sometimes i think it might be nice to go again for a possible sister and if it's a boy all fine and well too, but then i think she could have a sister and get on better with one of her brothers!!! the joys of parenthood!!

[LongStory]

No 1: 1/2hr before due day

No 2: 1 week early

No 3: 3 weeks early (spent most of time in homebirth labour arguing with consultant over phone that no it wasn't premature)

Nos 4 & 5: 4 weeks early, LBW, just on borderline for special care, needed some tube feeds.

Think it's safer to stop at this stage!

[lljkk]

DC1: 1 week early.
Successively later until:
DC4: 11 days late.

Ooh! Friend is having her 4th by elective CS today at 38.5 weeks (previous 3 DC were emergency CS after many hours of labour). And they came:
DC1: 2 weeks late
DC2: 3 weeks early
DC3: 2 months early.

So no pattern there at all.

[bigcar]

stressed, sounds hard work, I just had gestational diabetes and spd, which is also still hanging around! Ds2 (dc5) was supposed to be a vbac but my previous scar ruptured, just my luck, hence the recommendation. I feel but on the other hand I'm very grateful for the dcs I do have, even if my body is totally knackered now Just wish there was a way to not feel so bloody broody.

[DougalDoneGood]

DD1 3 weeks early
DD2 On time (2 days before due date)
DS1 Induced at Term + 15
DD3 1 week early

[KathH]

dd1 - 1 week late
dd2 - 1 week early
ds1 (who was due on dd1's bithday) - 9 days early
ds2 (due on dd2's birthday) - 4 weeks early

[elvislives]

DD1 on due date
DS1 11 days late
DS2 3 days early
DS3 8 days late

[tots2ten]

dd1 T+9
dd2 T+17
ds1 T+11
dd3 38 weeks (induced for low water)
ds2 39 weeks (induced for high blood pressure)

this time ?? currently 36 weeks

[stressedHEmum]

Bigcar - all the midwifes and consultants I saw commanded that I didn't have any more after no.5 for all the reasons above. I was really sad, but you have to be sensible, don't you. All my pgs were really difficult and by number 5, I had pregnancy cardiomyopathy as well as 9 month vomitting, permanent SPD which still hasn't fixed itself and more.

Nobody told me before the birth how much more difficult it would be. The previous ones had been bad enough, so maybe they didn't want to frighten me. But it does get harder each time, I think, because your muscles just can't react or recover in the same way. I would love to have had another child but, sadly, my poor old body just isn't up to it.

[gorionine]

DD1 T + 7 days 5 hours from the moment I got to hospital

Ds2 2 days early 1 1/2 from the moment I got to hospital

Ds3 3 days early 3 hours from the moment I got to hospital

DD4 7 days early 10 mn from the moment I got to hospital

Of all pregnancies DD! was the hardest because I spent my days with my head in the toilet for 7 months. THe others were a piece of cake!