I have read and heard in several places that having 3 kids is the "most" stressful, and those with four (or more) are more chilled. I struggle to understand why, unless it's because you "give up" a bit. I've 3 very young children (all singletons and under 3 1/2), and I'm undecided on having a 4th. I'm not looking for views on my personal situation, but just genuinely don't understand how another one would be less stress! It's another one that needs their hair washing, their favourite story read, their water bottle filled, their nappy changed, etc. How is that easier? Okay, these things don't last for ever, but the major reason I'm concerned about a fourth is how much it would cost as they got older. Relatively simple treats like pizza takeaways or cinema trips will be a fortune with paying for 3 , let alone 4, "big" kids, and of course basics such as school shoes and food will cost so much. And then there's holidays, university fees (hopefully), driving lessons.....How can 4 be less stress than 3????? I really would welcome views on this.
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madderthanahatter · 16/02/2024 07:52
After the third you stop seeing them as people and more as numbers. All the big families on TV say after the third you don't feel an extra one, because it just becomes herd mentality. Having an extra person in the household should always be felt, it's an extra mouth to feed, clothe, find a bed for, extra seat in the car. And forget about going on holiday with 4 dc without it costing a complete arm and a leg. IMO you don't feel it as much when they are young OP, but you definitely will when they are older and need clothes, a bedroom of their own and very expensive school trips.
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