Pregnant with our last baby, kinda sad. Anyone feel like this?

[MultipleMama]

Before we found I was PG, DH and I talked and agreed that we'd wait a good 5/6 years before having another or stop completely, we then found out we're expecting #7 so it's happening a whole lot sooner than I expected.

I don't think I could handle another pregnancy after this one due to how ill my last one made me, and I don't think I've recovered as well as I made out to be. And DH has made it clear that this will be our last baby, he's happy and content with 7 and does not want anymore, I am happy and content with the 6 + 1 lovely DC i have but I can't help that nagging feeling. I'm young it feels... wrong to say that's it. I don't know.

I am happy and excited to be having this baby but I can't get over this sad feeling. I expected to have this "we're gunna have baby, again" for a few years and bounce off that happiness...

Anyone else feel/felt like this?

I'm probably making no sense and just rambling on... Sorry this is so long. Didn't intend it to be!

[Mumof3xox]

So will mine!

[MultipleMama]

In 10 years time my eldest will be turning 16. That's a scary thought!

[Mumof3xox]

But just think in 10-15 years time!

[MultipleMama]

My last two pregnancies (both twin pregnancies) were stressful and constantly monitoring so I think for DH it took away some of that "happiness" you experience every scan. We also had a threatened miscarriage last PG which scared him so I think everything has just piled up and he's had enough, so we're trying to enjoy this last one.

However, I can't help thay nagging feeling that says "never is such a final word" so I'm hoping years down the line he changes his mind, and I hope I do too but right now I don't think I can handle/cope with another one soon...

[Mumof3xox]

Wow 7 at 24! I am impressed!

I would deffently like another at least another one

Dp says not

I think once we no longer have a small one he will change his mind!

[MultipleMama]

Thanks :)

At the minute we're in a 6 bedroom but downsizing to a 5 bedroom. My dad is one of many and they used to live in a 3 bedroom. They just have 2 single beds with those guest beds that pull out underneath - which I think we'll be getting for our eldest twins when they get fed up of sharing sleep space.

How many rooms do you have? X

[ScouseBird8364]

Multiple huge congratulations to you

I don't mean to be nosy, but how many bedrooms is your house? I only ask because I'm in a worry at mo, as I'm pregnant with 3rd, and last! but stuck for space My hub reassures me that he is 1 of 7 and his mum coped all those years ago, in a 3 bedroom house x

[MultipleMama]

mumof3 - I'd like to think that also. I'm 24 but DH is 30 and says he's done :(

[Mumof3xox]

I have according to dp had our last baby

However, I like to think we are young 26/27 and I have plenty of time for him to change his mind

[MultipleMama]

DH has had thrown at him; shoes, remotes, broccoli, a spatula, watering can, paint, bouncy balls, toys, play doh, and once I remember throwing a dumpling at his head and whacking him in the eye.... I'd like to say I was pregnant during these incidents but I can't remember! DH likes to think it's because I'm "sensitive" when I pregnant

We had a massive row yesterday and this morning, so being pregnant and using that as my excuse, I've put cling film on the toilet...

[CherryPie3]

I honestly can't remember why I threw it at him. He must've deserved it I remember having to go to Argos the day after before work to replace it, then being devastated that that style had been discontinued and I had to get a slide up Samsung phone.

There was also an incident where I threw paint on him and another where I poured cola on him while he was trying to sleep. In my defence I was pregnant both of these times...

I can't remember the reason for doing these in the first place!! Maybe I'm just a psycho wife....

[MultipleMama]

I've thrown mine at DH a few times. It never broke once, drop it in a multi-story car park and the screen smashes. Can't be arsed to replace the bloody thing though!

It would be fun, cherry, to hear the story behind it

I fell in love with sony errikson blue flip phone because I could change the flash colour I have a simple mind.

[Olbas]

Thank you
I have to ask CherryPie3 what did he do and how dare he not catch it!

[CherryPie3]

Olbas that's great news - congratulations!!! :)

As for phones.... My favourite phone was a bright pink Motorola razr, one2one network . But I, errrmmm, threw it at DH and it smashed on the wall.....

[Molotov]

I like the sound of that, Olbas! How wonderful Congratulations

[MultipleMama]

Congrats, Olbas!

[Olbas]

Well, I was convinced I was finished with having babies, despite Dh saying one more would be really nice you know. I said I'd think about it...I hadn't finished thinking about it but I'm 8 weeks gone! The rest of the clan are delighted and Dh & I can't help smiling like Cheshire cats It was meant to be but no more!!

[MultipleMama]

I hate it when it freezes on me and I have to lock it and then unlock just to get it to bloody work, and oh, how it infuritates me when it refuses to press the letter I want. Many a times, I've got annoyed with it, DH knows when I'm having "phone problems" because I curse more than usual! .

You know, what I miss? BT cellnet or Nokia 3310. The bulky but very simple ones!

[CherryPie3]

Oh multiplemama I'm glad I'm not alone!! My DH has learned to read between the lines when I text him but even from him I often get a "try again please" text from him!

Aah well
I call it a cherry quirk haha.

[MultipleMama]

Haha, cherry. I always have fights with my samsung and it's stupid touchscreen

[CherryPie3]

Sorry for my terrible typos!

I blame my iPhone...

[Kim82]

Me and dh agreed when I was pregnant with number 3 that it would be our last baby. I was sad about it as I always wanted four but it was the right decision for financial/space reasons. She's now nearly 7 and I never got over my longing for another. I used to pounce on friend's babies when they visited, the thought of never being pregnant again was horrible.

I'm now pregnant with number 4 - not planned at all and we still have the same financial and space issues but it was obviously meant to be. I'm happy for this baby to be our last and dh has been to the gp to ask for the snip as we don't want to risk any more contraception failures and that's fine by me, I know I won't get broody again. I'm done after this baby and my family definitely feels complete.

[MultipleMama]

Thanks everyone.

I'm trying to savour every moment knowing it'll be my last. Currently, I have no idea how far along I am because DH and I cannot for the life of us figure out when we forgot the condom! so we're waiting on a scan next week and I'm so excited but a little sad as it'll be my 'last 1st scan'.

Yep, 6 under 6. But I do have 2 sets of twins I blame my over fertile ovaries & super powered eggs!

[moonblues]

Well, I've had my last baby (according to DH), but think I'm still in denial and dream of another little one. I'm trying to think of it as entering another stage of school aged kids etc and all the joys that come with that.

I think your family sounds amazing.

[CherryPie3]

Big hugs MultipleMama, you are so lucky to have a large family :)

I know what you mean about the sad feeling, when I was pregnant with my youngest I tried to enjoy it as of promised DH that I would be done... But instead it was full of "it his is the last time I'll have a 12wk/20wk scan" "this is the last time I'll he 35wks pregnant" " this is the last time we'll be shopping for baby essentials" "this is the last time I'll he pregnant" etc.

Made my pregnancy very sad although I was obviously excited about our new arrival, I was so sure I'd be 'done' with 4 children but I soon realised I wanted at least one more. I left it at that though, I never asked DH for anymore babies.

Then DH asked told me he thinks he wants another....

So that's where we are now. TTC #4.

Good luck sweet