Of course I recognise that ds2 and ds3 may get measles. I think that most people who choose not to vaccinate realise that, they are for whatever reaosn more scared about the vaccines. Everyone I know well who has chosen not to vaccinate has taken that choice because they have a damaged elder child. DS2 was exposed to whooping cough at 4 months, luckily he didn't get it. I've chosen to run the risk of that rather than the jab for the moment. I know my children are high risk for autism, I also know how bloody awful it is. It's not a decision that I dreamed up overnight.
SP - I do think we probably agree on this, perhaps just have different things that are important to us iyswim. do you really think that people know more about autism though? I don't think people have the faintest idea what it is like. I don't think they understand for one tiny moment. I don't think they even get the concept to be honest. In fact I know they don't because people still insit on saying to me "why don't we meet at the park with the kids?, or "we could go and get a pub lunch" or even "lets go to the zoo - the kid's will love it". And just like one mother in the film I have often said to myself "yes right I would love to go to the zoo/park/pub with my 3 kids, in another lifetime". I can't even get from the car to the front door when I have all 3 of them alone. That's why I've been so obsessed with showing people the film, because I think it does begin to capture what life is like every day.
If you meant about the biological factors involved in autism, there's very little known. The research is starting to come together, but I think at this stage there are many, many unaswered questions, and probably none answered. It appears the immune system is buggered (interestingly quite a high number of autistic children appear not to develop rubella antibodies for example after MMR- just to add insult to injury), that sulphation systems are often out, that metal detoxification systems are knackered, that antibodies to myelin may be produced, that membranes are leaky but how it all ties together is not known, to make it even more complicated there appear to be different subgroups with different problems. We have a pretty good idea about what may have triggered ds1, but very little about other things that could potentially affect ds2 and ds3. Now at 4 DS2 appears to have escaped.