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The Same Sex/Equal Marriage Bill. There is no rational argument against it, is there?

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Hobbitation · 05/02/2013 17:33

MPs are debating the Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Bill with a vote at 7pm.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-21325702

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Hobbitation · 06/02/2013 13:56

Beliefs shouldn't allow people a loophole to discriminate illegally.

And if people have distanced themselves from some parts of the  Bible (slavery, beating your wife) why can they not distance themselves from homophobia?

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PostBellumBugsy · 06/02/2013 14:03

I think the state in an ideal world should be secular. In a democratic secular society (which is pretty much what the UK is), the state should set out and uphold an egalitarian legal framework for its people.

So gay people shoudl have the same rights as heterosexual people, as white people, as black people as disabled people.

The state should not support any one faith but should make it possible for anyone to pursue their own faith. So there shouldn't be any faith based state schools.

I find it very confusing that Catholics can approve of same sex marriage, as it goes against the fundamental teachings of their own faith - but as a lapsed Catholic myself, most of the Catholics I know have a very elastic & cherry picking approach to their faith - which always bewilders me!!!!

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tiggytape · 06/02/2013 14:08

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MrsHoarder · 06/02/2013 14:56

I am very happy for people of faith to feel that they are opposed to same sex marriage and not have one. That is absolutely fine with me.

Much like I am very happy for Methodists to be opposed to alcohol and not drink it. Perfectly acceptable (although not ideal when the village shop didn't stock any booze due to it being run by a Methodist).

They should not be able to dictate what people outside that faith do however, as long as it is not causing them harm then they should live and let live. I think that as long as no church is forced to officiate a same-sex marriage (remember they can discriminate against divorcees) then they have no arguement against it.

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tribpot · 06/02/2013 16:17

But that's the point of faith and personal beliefs - they are what people believe and have a right to believe. They don't have to be justified with literal or loose bible interpretations.

Broadly I can agree with you, tiggytape, but in this case the entire religious argument (at least as far as I have seen it) has been based on a couple of passages in the bible which prohibit the practice of homosexuality. It has not been an extensive argument put forward based on the teachings and example of Jesus, for example, or based on centuries of study into the true meaning of marriage, it's always just 'it says it in the Bible '. As a reason for denying the rights of other people, it seems lacking. When debating such matters with religious people I'm prepared to work within a framework of personal belief, but I rarely come across an issue which seems to be adopted so dogmatically (pun intended) and without a supporting explanation. This is purely based on my own experience, of course.

Personally I think those opposing this bill should insert the words 'mixed race' in place of 'same sex' and see if they still think they will be able to justify themselves in twenty years' time when gay marriage is as normal as interracial marriage is today. However, social change rarely happens after all parties are convinced by the need for it - so we can only hope and wait.

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PostBellumBugsy · 06/02/2013 16:44

Tribot, alot of the objection from the Catholic Church - is not because they are specifically anti-gay - but because of what they believe marriage to be.

The Catholic Church doctrine is that marriage is the binding union of a man & woman primarily for the purpose of procreation (obviously if the man & woman are of child-bearing age). They believe it is a sacred sacrament.

So it has nothing to do with the practice of homosexuality from a Catholic perspective - but what marriage means.

However, in my view that is for the Churches to sort out themselves. No one is saying they have to conduct same sex marriages, all the law is doing is allowing same sex couples to be married in the eyes of the law.

This is why the state should be separate & independent from any church or faith.

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KateMumsnet · 06/02/2013 16:48

Hello

Just popping in very briefly to let you know that MN Blogger Chiller has written an interesting post on an aspect of this subject - on our front page today.

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tribpot · 06/02/2013 16:53

Actually my most anti friend is not Catholic, PostBellum, although I believe her objection is based on the same thing. But clearly this would prohibit many other marriages from being legitimate as well - if people marry beyond their child-bearing age? And that description of marriage is a religious one and reasonable within that context, but marriage is a civil concept too.

I quite agree that churches need to sort this out for themselves. Which is why I find it odd that the CofE and CoW are basically prevented from sorting it out for themselves.

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HoratiaWinwood · 06/02/2013 17:00

I had far rather they made all same-sex marriage legal, but extended a church or other similar organisation's right to choose who they marry. So if your vicar thinks you only want to get married in church for the photos, he currently can't decline to marry you, but he should be able to.

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HotheadPaisan · 06/02/2013 17:02

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PostBellumBugsy · 06/02/2013 17:08

Horatia, I though that vicars could decline on the basis that they didn't believe that the couple were sincere in their beliefs about a christian marriage?
I know friends who have been declined a CofE venue, because other than their baptism, they'd never been remotely interested in the CofE, so the vicar said no!

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MrsHoarder · 06/02/2013 17:51

Horatia the churches can currently choose who they will marry. For example you cannot get married in a C of E church as a divorcee (even if you are the heir to the throne), and religious requirements are entirely down to the church itself (as a national organisation).

Most churches get around this by having an attendance requirement and realising that if they aren't welcoming to young couples then there is no way they can halt their decline so putting up with people marrying for the photographs. Its very difficult for the church to set up a rule to test for genuine belief. They really aren't required to marry all comers at all.

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HoratiaWinwood · 06/02/2013 18:16

Two people who don't love each other can get married in church (so long as they are a man and a woman).

Two atheists can get married in church (so long as they are a man and a woman).

If you meet the residence requirements (ie it is your parish church) and you haven't been married to anyone who is still alive, you can get married in the CofE church regardless of your commitment and beliefs. Which is rather unfair.

Disestablishment would have advantages for everyone.

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MrsHoarder · 06/02/2013 18:35

Except the bishops in the house of lords...

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 06/02/2013 18:56

A divorced friend of mine is getting married in C of E church this year to a divorced man, both exes still alive, so there must be some sort of allowance for the vicar to use discretion, both are regular churchgoers in this case.

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HoratiaWinwood · 06/02/2013 19:33

Bishops might still get made lords... Grin

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MrsHoarder · 06/02/2013 20:38

Yes to the church having discretion, wronged partners can be granted dispensation to remarry. Doesn't stop the church having final say.

As for the bishops, they run the risk odd losing status with disestablishmentism. In fact aside from things like this the church is better of within the establishment (and yes that includes being a default wedding location even for non-belivers. People don't join a church that they've never been in. plus generous donations to use the church)

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MrsBethel · 07/02/2013 11:31

There is indeed no rational argument against it.

The religious argument is an explicitly irrational argument, relying as it does on faith.

Personally, I think the state should just completely ignore religion. Don't discriminate against it, don't discriminate in favour of it. Just treat it like any other social club people may have, who may well have their own ideas about things. We certainly shouldn't give them special privilege just because they have inherited some ideas and are discouraged from thinking for themselves.

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emilywq · 09/02/2013 13:06

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