I have two daughters 11 and 4.
Both are adopted and have special needs. I have been through the DLA fight and i am now in the EHCP fight for both of them. They both have higher rate DLA and lower rate mobility DLA. Youngest is in nappies and non verbal and i have just been refused an EHCNA for primary school which i am appealing. Both have diagnoses. Oldest is being home schooled at our expense while we await whatever crappy inadequate EHCP they will throw at us.
The diagnoses, adoption and DLA process has taken it out of me and DH.
I am now in a never ending EHCP process for both children.
I feel like i am spending their childhoods in the study doing paperwork and snapping at them.
I feel like i have worked so hard on EHCP and so far nothing in return.
I am a stay at home mum carer. I am educated to masters level. Family income is circa 170K at the moment.
We have the space at home to home educate.
The case against: Its a hell of a responsibility to take on the education of two human beings.
Financial, we will be footing the bill to the tune of about 1k per month for years on end when we shouldn't have to.
For: i wont have to deal with professionals who just don't have a clue about child development or education or child centeredness or just having any sort of warmth towards children.
My to do list will almost disappear.
Kids don't have to get up and do school run which is stressful
Kids can wear their own clothes.
they get 121 with their tutor which they love
their attendance is 100%
loads of downtime to relax which is important and therapeutic for them
They don't have to spend loads of time on subjects they don't want to do, my eldest only really likes swimming so she just does that, she hates languages and drama so i can just drop those.
Schools are shit for a million reasons
My eldest just wants to learn and is bright and has told me she is learning more at home.
i can chop and change what we do, activities, tutor, online, trips out based on the age of my children and what they like
There is an explosion in high quality Home ed provision which you can buy in
The social side is now coming along as i set up groups etc and go to activities
Youngest seems to be doing better at home than at nursery
we can travel and visit relatives outside term holidays
My eldest has actually started to enjoy learning, she hated school and was behind.
I would really appreciate objective feedback.
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lovelysoap · 17/01/2024 10:53
RatherBeRiding · 17/01/2024 10:57
In your shoes I wouldn't hesitate. Your Pro list is a lot longer than your Con list although I don't really understand where you get that you will be spending 1k a month?
PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 17/01/2024 12:46
But you’re spending money on swimming / Lego / trips out regardless of whether they’re in school or not… you’re not suddenly spending less if they go to school.
whatsappdoc · 17/01/2024 12:56
An income of 170k and you're quibbling about the money? This is your daughters' wellbeing! The only con as far as I can see is your own life, career, satisfaction etc. would this suit you?
KeepGoingThomas · 17/01/2024 14:15
Personally, no, I wouldn’t EHE. If school is inappropriate I would pursue EOTAS. EOTAS can provide far more than the vast majority of parents can afford to fund EHEing. That is not a criticism of parents who EHE, more a statement of what EOTAS can include. A good EOTAS package will be well in excess of £1k per month. Most of your ‘for’ list can also be achieved with EOTAS.
As an aside, how does your 4y/o receive LRM?
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KeepGoingThomas · 17/01/2024 18:34
Personally if the EHCP is inadequate when it is finalised I would appeal. The majority of appeals are upheld. EOTAS can provide so much more than most parents can fund.Â
LRM is low rate mobility. Can’t be received until 5. Unless you mean it has been awarded ready to begin once 5 - which is sometimes done when a 4y/o’s claim is looked at when they are nearly 5.
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