DS is in year 5 and ASD. I have been battling the school for 3 years now to get him any kind of support. He has become more introverted and more rigid as he's gotten older. Since September he's had the worst time at school yet. He's deeply unhappy and struggling to cope with a classroom setting.
His psychologist at CAMHS has advised me to either admit him to a more specialised school or remove him. I can't apply for a SEN school as he does not have a statement/EHCP.
He will not use public toilets due to sensory issues (number 2's) including school and this has resulted in hospital visits with severe constipation and he's regularly taking Movicol as he holds it until he's home. He had an accident in year 4 and soiled himself and the school did nothing...just left him. Didn't inform me. 16 months later I'm still waiting for the school nurse visit and a care plan to be put in place. He's now starting to hold his urine. I don't know how he does it.
He's failing in a couple of subjects as he's having regular meltdowns and the other pupils he finds hard to cope with when they touch him or touch his desk as sits by himself.
He's being physically bullied at lunchtimes so I've started taking him home for lunch. Also because his sensory issues means he's not eating his lunch at school. Monday's CAMHS appt showed he's lost weight.
Due to a poor recent OFSTED report the school are comic down hard on attendance. DS has difficulty sleeping and on Sunday night didn't actually go to sleep at all. He may get 3-4 hours and on a good night get 6-7. This means his concentration, frustration and sensory issues are all affected but I have to send him in as they insist on it but do not help him in the classroom. This leads to anxiety and meltdowns.
He's been bordering on school refusal for a year now and he's now telling me he feels weird and he's unhappy. He can't verbalise the exact problem but I'm guessing it's school. He doesn't have any friends and since year 2 he hasn't been invited to any parties or play dates and no one comes to his. Children have been told to stay away from him ( I know this because I've confronted a mum ) he's not violent, he's a stickler for the rules and only gets angry when experiencing a meltdown so I can only figure it's because he's "different"...co morbid tics and hand flapping etc.
I was in the head's office again this afternoon as is learned teachers were forcing eye contact due to it being a school "rule" as it's good manners. DS finds eye contact extremely awkward and cane out if school very upset. I called my mum after and broke down as I've had enough and just want him to be happy.
My dad called me tonight and mentioned HE and said I'd do a wonderful job as I'm so passionate about DS leading a happy and fulfilled life. He really got me thinking and DH has backed me too. He also thinks it would be a good idea. Hard work but a good idea.
I'm sorry this post is so long but I felt I needed to include the back story.
I wondered what kind of thoughts more experienced home educators had on the situation and if HE would be right for us.
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ChildOfGallifrey · 11/02/2015 00:47
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