I hope someone can help with advice as having talked it over with DD she is unsure whether she should try to transfer halls or tough it out.
She did badly in her A levels last year and ended up taking a place through clearing at a quiet University that she had not visited. She hated her course but struggled on and passed the first year. She decided not go back and luckily managed to get a last minute place on a course this year at a Uni that she had loved on the open day last year. She had to start the first year again as it is a different course. She is in a northern City where there are I think a few Unis.
She was allocated a place in catered halls but is really struggling to make friends and feels that she is being left out and is getting quite disheartened. She has tried to make friends but it doesn’t seem to be working. Everyone else on her corridor seems to have gelled except for one guy who doesn’t leave his room and another guy who spends most of his time in his girlfriend’s hall.
Speaking to her today she said last night a few of them were knocking on everyone’s door to go out except hers. This has happened a few times and often she is in her room whilst the others all go out. At the start of uni there was a WhatsApp group and it would be on there when they were going for the evening meal or breakfast. This seems to have gone quiet however they all seem to know when they are meeting. She did message on their a few times and can see that her messages have been read but no one replies. There are two girls who have taken a dislike to her to the point of speaking to everyone else but ignoring her
The good thing is that she really does love the course and all the different modules. She has a lot more work to do which she is enjoying as at the previous Uni she found that there was very little study to do. However this makes the evenings even lonelier as she has nothing to do. She loves clubbing and gigs but doesn’t have anyone to go with and is losing heart. She doesn’t want me to do anything but is getting quite depressed and spending her time in her room every evening. She is saying that if she transfers halls she still might not make any friends.
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RosalieCalvert · 06/10/2017 15:00
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