Cambridge or Durham?

[whichuni95]

I have been offered places at both Cambridge and Durham to study history (both of which I am thrilled about) and cannot decide between the two. This is obviously a lovely dilemma to have and I feel very privileged but it is still a very important decision which will affect the rest of my life.

I just found out about Cambridge and am still in a slight state of euphoric shock (but I have to decide within the next 48 hours because of other complicated reasons) so I am worried that I may feel flattered and excited into a potentially rash decision.

I first fell in love with Durham when I visited a year and a half ago at the beginning of 6th form and so feel a long term connection with it. I was dead set against oxbridge for years seeing it as elitist and only decided to apply at the last possible minute. I also honestly didn't think I stood a chance of getting in. So although I now really do love Cambridge as well, my attachment to it is of a different nature. I therefore can't help feeling, on one level, that I should go with my initial gut instinct and choose Durham.

I am someone who loves school and responds well to a challenge and so I think I would defiantly enjoy the intellectual rigor of Cambridge. I love the history course on offer there a ridiculous amount and was literally jumping out my seat with excitement at the prospect of taking some of the modules. But at the same time, the thought of working even harder than I am now for another 3 years is quite daunting for me. I can't help but feel that I am wasting my one chance at being young by locking myself in my room and (attempting to) write essays the vast majority of the time. I feel like with interviews and January and summer exams this whole year has been a constant stress which is fine (I know how privileged I am to even still be in education and to have all these opportunities) but I want to feel like all the work is in aid of letting the rest of my life begin, not in spending another three years doing an even more intense version of the same thing. I don't mind working hard, very hard even, at university as long as whilst I am there I also have more opportunities to see my friends and have fun! How much less work will Durham be than Cambridge? Is Cambridge as much hard work as I am anticipating? How do students at Cambridge manage to balance work with being young and having a good time?

I have this fantasy of being at university and waking up in the morning and all my friends are just there, watching E4 and eating beans on toast and we can all sit around together and have a laugh and be spontaneous. I have been told that being at Cambridge will be like a 9-5 job; you'll either be in lectures or you'll be in the library all day except for a couple of hours in the evening when you can sit in the bar for a bit and then you'll go to bed. Does anyone know if this is true and how realistic my fantasy is at either Cambridge or Durham?

I am not a massive night-club person but I am also definitely not a hermit. I am very sociable and do also want to have fun at uni. I am an only child and so am greatly looking forward to living with other young people. I am not sure whether this makes me more suited to Durham or Cambridge?

At the end of the day, despite all the work I do really love Cambridge. As already mentioned, I love the course, I love the style of learning there, I love the idea of having supervisions. The college I have applied to is perfect for me and I think it will be filled with like-minded people. It is also considerably bigger than the college I have applied to at Durham so there may well be more social events on offer and it had a really nice student bar/ JCR. I am really into acting and at Cambridge I would potentially have the chance of getting involved with footlights which would be amazing. I also feel that Durham is quite 'private school' (certainly more so than the college I have applied to at Cambridge). Does anyone know if this is true? Finally, if my life post-university doesn't go according to plan I don't want to live with a constant feeling of 'what if', if I turn the amazing opportunity of a place at Cambridge down.

I really don't know what to do. I am sorry this is basically an epic monologue but I am truly stuck. Any advice or experience would be much appreciated.

[MariscallRoad]

whichuni95 thank you for posting.

The times and circumstances have changed and I do not know if we one can surely predict what it will be like in 4 years time - when my DC and his friends graduate. As you have seen, the current economic climate is a problem. Even people with degrees find it difficult to get jobs now.

[mummytime]

Sympathetique - if that was a criticism, sorry but I have sat next to some very "bullshitting" public school types. On the other hand I know a lot of very articulate, intelligent, thoughtful etc. public school types. By Graduate level it is irrelevant (actually looking back for several of my friends I had/have no idea what school they went to).
If you come from a not very good State school, the "polish" some Private school types have, can be off putting, however if you listen to content you learn the useful skill of differentiating "style" from "real intellect".

The big advantage of Oxbridge (other than sometimes the best course, but not always) is that often they can provide more in terms of accommodation etc. which can be very helpful.

[brainonastick]

Welovecouscous - do I know you?! Those are some my friends jobs as well!

[Sympathique]

mummytime: you could take it like that, but it was meant as a clarification - and an unspoken wish that people wouldn't generalise. Your subsequent post made it clear that school has less to do with it than your initial post suggested. I agree with you that it's easy to be over-awed by bullshitters, wherever they come from, and especially if, like so many freshers, you're convinced that Cambridge accepted you by mistake. On the other hand, the very brightest may also be the humblest. They can also come from any school.

[Sympathique]

In the absence of any way of ?liking? posts, can I propose this as best post of the thread:
PenelopePipPop ?Congratulations. Based on your post you clearly have a talent for massively over-thinking things and would (based on my experiences at Emma 15 years ago!) fit in brilliantly at Cambridge.? Laughed like a drain - describes members of this family to a T.

Closely followed by this:
welovecouscous ?I think the fact that you are not just blithely taking your hard won Oxbridge offer shows a lot of maturity and independent thought. Actually thinking it through is good!? Aaaw, lovely.

[faustina]

If you're still wondering whether to go, could I just add that DS2 is currently at Kings and although sometimes he does 9pm - 5am, shortly before exams/essay deadlines, he is most definitely able to enjoy himself thoroughly in between. He also went straight from state school. Did you decide yet?

[MariscallRoad]

It might be also a good idea best to approach employers as a to find out what they think one way or another and how the market has changed. The organisations look also for suitable persons.

[funnyperson]

I dont know if its still the same but the used to have a tripos system at Cambridge which meant there was a lot of flexibility in the subject studied so you could start off doing history then switch to something else if you wanted.