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Week 5 of 52 small changes - a focus on our mental health

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OddSocksHighHeels · 23/01/2016 23:00

Still carrying on with previous weeks - drinking more water, getting more sleep, being active each day and logging food intake.

Week 5 is harder for me to write and is hard to put into practice but the focus is on optimism! I've left out some points that I find too woolly and not things that can be real and tangible aims. Warning: this one will be a long post.

  1. Self-talk. When you find yourself being negative about yourself then shift it. Don't magnify the negative, don't automatically blame yourself, stop seeing things in black and white. If you hear yourself saying "I can't do that" then correct yourself and switch it to "I can learn to do that".


  1. Try to gain a sense of humour in negative and challenging situations. Laugh about what you can.


  1. Take care of your physical health - exercise, for example, releases endorphins and can then help your mental health.


  1. Foster healthy relationships. Surround yourself with positive people and keep negative people at a distance. If in doubt, ask MN and they'll tell you to go NC.


  1. Try to find one thing to be grateful for each day.


  1. Channel Elsa and let it go. Is it worth obsessing over? If not then try to forget it and move on.


  1. List your strengths and accomplishments. Add to the list when you can. Look over it when you need a boost.


  1. Focus on what you want and what you want to attract in your life. Aim towards your goals.


Phew, that was long! I'll add my thoughts tomorrow as it's quite a lot to digest right off for me.
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Pointlessfan · 26/01/2016 07:31

I slept too well, didn't want to wake up!
I don't think I'm doing very well with this week's change. I haven't been especially negative but is also haven't really set aside any time to think about it all properly, yesterday and Sunday were very busy days.

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AnonymousBird · 26/01/2016 09:01

Thanks for this. Definitely one to take some time and thought over. Wellbeing is so important if you can achieve it. I used to sweat the small stuff but have taught myself (not always successful!) to take a breath and step back and think.

I've had some dear friends who have had some truly dreadful things happen to them in recent years and I only need to remember how lucky I am and life is too short to dwell on what are really minor irritations. Save your energies and efforts for what really matters in life.

Love this series of threads.

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DrDiva · 26/01/2016 09:14

Morning all. Seems like there are some really positive things happening above and beyond the small changes! How lovely. You are an inspiring lot. Smile

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Sirona · 26/01/2016 09:41

Well done for contacting the support agency ICJ. As a sahm I get the talking to other adults a big thing for mental health, even a chat to a cashier perks my day up sometimes. I also hear you with the smoking thing. I spent the last few years on and off them like a yoyo until I realised I was just prolonging the agony and putting myself through the initial withdrawal countless times. Never want to go through that again.

How serendipitous was finding that notebook quirky :)

Oh that's a big achievement margarita, I severely lack in patience when I'm tired. Hope your ds perks up soon.

My dd starting coming round to me about 2 and a half pointless and she was uber clingy with her dad. Now she just gurns for him when I've told her off Grin, but she does the same with him.

Good start to the day. 8 hours sleep, some water down me and porridge for breakfast. I'm sitting in my running clothes keeping my fingers crossed for a break in the gales so I can get out!

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fuzzpig · 26/01/2016 09:45

I've got to phone the mental health charity thing today, and another clinic too. I hate phonecalls like this but if I tell myself it's for the small changes challenge maybe it'll be a bit easier!

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Pointlessfan · 26/01/2016 09:54

Good luck with the phone call fuzz.
Been stocking up on fruit and veg at the supermarket this morning and am having a satsuma for a snack so feeling virtuous!

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BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 26/01/2016 11:58

I'm hoping this week il get back on track (may not have done very well so far). For me it will be taking my mess and not letting anxiety rule me.

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gingercat02 · 26/01/2016 16:11

Ok. I'm back in the land of the living. Been truly rubbish at sleeping, drinking and moving for the last week. Sadly my rotten head cold didn't stop me eating Sad
This weeks is a biggy! I'm a fairly happy person irl, but can be a bit negative at work. I really need to try with that. I work with a great team of lovely women, my immediate manager and her manager are both good people so what's not to like.
That will be my weeks lifes mission to be more Smile Smile at work.

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fuzzpig · 26/01/2016 16:14

Well I've been brave and tried making the phonecalls :) unfortunately I got no answer on the one I am really worried about, but I did get an answer from the other one and have booked an appointment with the wellbeing service people. So that's something.

I've also managed to do a few houseworky things that needed doing and that's definitely lifted my mood. And remembered to take my ADs :o

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Pointlessfan · 26/01/2016 16:29

Well done fuzz.
I've been quite lazy today and now feel like I've wasted the day, couldn't face going out in the bad weather which is very unlike me, I'm not usually bothered about getting wet. I feel more tired for having been quite inactive!

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quirkychick · 26/01/2016 16:53

I know Sirona I just need to keep it up this time! I am a sahm too so the adult contact is very important.

I had a very productive day yesterday, lots of phonecall and very active, 2 lots of Headspace. Today, not so much. Not helped by disrupted sleep... I helped in school this morning and came back and had a nap, as I knew I needed it.

Eating, pretty ok: coffee and a handful of nuts for breakfast, chicken soup followed by yoghurt for lunch and I have some salmon for dinner. I tried the yummy avocado baked with egg and bacon - delicious!

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Librariesgaveusp0wer · 26/01/2016 18:46

Not sure who asked , but up to a week for the bloods. Seems a long time right now. Had to ask DH to take the day off work and basically slept all day. 4 hours this morning and then on and off all afternoon.

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Librariesgaveusp0wer · 26/01/2016 18:48

Well done ICJ and Fuzz . Flowers

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quirkychick · 26/01/2016 21:29

Libraries you obviously need it Flowers be kind to yourself.

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 27/01/2016 00:18

Libraries I hope the blood test results throw up something easily dealt with that will make you feel better.

V. glad to hear your DH is being supportive.

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BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 27/01/2016 06:38

I have also bought a load of 'real' food so I will stop eating crap and will start eating better. Sleep not good but I'm determined to be out by half 9 for the rest of the week. Water is actually the only thing I'm doing really well in!

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quirkychick · 27/01/2016 07:17

I seem to have had quite a sleepathon! After a disturbed night yesterday, I napped in the afternoon and then fell asleep on the sofa before bed. I then woke at 6:45am, so my Fitbit shows 2 days at 7hrs 55mins. Hurray!

BoysFrom real food sounds a good move. I find if I have good stuff in the kitchen I am more likely to make better choices. Dp and I are going out for lunch on a "date" there are lots of discounts this time of year...

I haven't filled in my gratitude diary as I put it in a drawer next to my bed. I need to put it somewhere else.

I made a salmon dish with a white wine and garlic sauce yesterday with veggies and cauliflower mash. Was delish, garlic, wine and butter makes most things taste good Grin.

Off to find gratitude diary and get dcs ready for school...

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Pointlessfan · 27/01/2016 07:22

I did not sleep well last night. My bed is really uncomfortable, can never get my pillows right. I took an antihistamine because I was all allergic and itchy yesterday so zonked out as soon as the light was off but kept waking up and fidgeting all night. Not feeling especially grateful or active today!

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Librariesgaveusp0wer · 27/01/2016 16:09

Well its not my thyroid or anything physical.

Have valium and awaiting a psych referral.

Cannot function. Cannot look after the kids. Can barely dress myself. Only relief is sleeping.

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quirkychick · 27/01/2016 16:11

Oh Libraries, I hope the psych referral is soon and the value kicks in soon. I hope you are getting plenty of rl help too.

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Librariesgaveusp0wer · 27/01/2016 16:41

Just had a call. Week wait even on insurance. Not sure any of us can do that. Poor DH. My poor kids

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DrDiva · 27/01/2016 18:35

Oh libraries I am so sorry. I have no advice but send plenty of virtual thoughts and hugs. Is there anyone who can come and help you out?

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Pointlessfan · 27/01/2016 19:53

So sorry to hear that libraries, I hope you have lots of support at home and that you get some professional help soon.

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gingercat02 · 27/01/2016 20:30

Flowers Libraries hope you get thr help you need soon. Have you anyone who could help your DH with the kids and let you rest ((hugs))

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ICJump · 27/01/2016 21:42

Libraries that sounds really hard. Im in Australia so obviously different systems but I have been told by the mental health team if I'm bad I can present to accident and emergency. It sounds extreme but it can mean you get help sooner.
Im sorry you are going through this.


fuzz. Well done in your bravery.

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