Overweight child, lunch box ideas ?

[Canadawet]

DC3 now nearly 10 is overweight. It started slowly in year 2 and now in year 5 she is undeniably overweight. Her older brother is really skinny and her older sister normal weight. She loves her food. Not sure what to do, but I need to do something. Her lunch box usually contains a ham or chicken bagel sandwich, a packet of crisps, a kitkat and a caprisun. I can do better clearly. Carrot sticks? Fruit? Replacing the drink with water? What about treats? And she goes to breakfast club, should I limit what she can get? And after school club, she eats quite a lot there too. Then will have dinner at home. What are healthy snacks alternatives? I feel bad should know that but I don't really have a clue.

[kateandme]

canadawet I never thought different sorry if it seemed I did.over worrying from my end that's all.you look like ur doing exceltne things.

[Canadawet]

Point taken about insisting on health rather than looks, this is clearly my agenda anyway.

[kateandme]

i notice you said she is getting self contious now.i don't want to be preachy I'm more than sure you mindful of her feelings but this is something to be so careful of now obviously. with the food thing especially and changes your needing to make.she will be so sensitive of this happening and whether you mean it to or not at this age everything will seem like a nock to how she looks.so make sure she knows this is to be a healthier family.that the changes aren't seemed as punishment or to change how she looks just to make sure you all the best versions of yourself.
I remember this age and even if someone looked at your wrong it would play on the I'm ugle and fat thoughts lol.
keep reminding her shes beautiful and that the food and health isn't exclusive to that or how she looks and weighs.
keep asking her what fruits veggies things she might want.not forced restriction etc.
instead of like saying she cant have asc meal because its too much could you just say you want her to have meal altogether with you guys.
you obviously love and care sooo much for her wellbeing so as long as she sees this and knows this she will be ok.
have you talked to her bout this.has she mentioned anything shed like to try or worries about it?

[Canadawet]

Thanks a lot for all your replies, sorry for delay, I agree that there is lot wrong with what we are doing and we should be able to get back on track within a few weeks by making the changes suggested. Water, popcorn, bread and healthy pudding for a start, she shouldn't notice the changes and I'll ask what they had in after school club, if it's left overs from lunch no dinner at home on top. And sports after school would be ideal, I'll see what she could do.

[Loveache]

What pp said about after school food- I got a bit chubby around 12, I think mostly because I was having essentially a dinner in after-school care and then a family dinner later on. It's just too much food unless you're very active.

[londonista]

Screw - great suggestions! Good point re making sure they feel like they've had a treat.

Do you prepare any of it in advance?

[TheTurnOfTheScrew]

I send my 10yo dd with a small sandwich (1 slice bread) or small roll, pot of veg sticks, 2 x fruit portions (1 for morning break), small savoury snack (couple of cocktail sausages, mini scotch egg) and a sugar free jelly - the latter is about 10 calories, clearly chemical rubbish but she feels like she's had a treat. The small sandwich plus savoury snack are probably the same calories as a full sandwich but she prefers the variety.

She drinks a flask of sugar free squash. capri sun is one of the higher sugar squashes so an easy swap. I know lots of people frown on sugar free stuff due to articificial sweetners, but I think if you have a kid who gains weight easily it's the lesser of two evils.

[everythingstaken123]

What about a little pot of bircher muesli or something so she feels she's getting a really delicious pudding but is actually getting some slow release oats, protein in the yoghurt, healthy fats in the seeds and some fruit. You can make it the night before or even do a few at a time.

Hemsley and Hemsley do a good recipe for banana bread that only contains 30g of butter and 2tbsp of maple syrup. The rest is bananas, eggs and almonds/flax.

I think allowing her to see that healthy foods are delicious is really important. She shouldn't feel that she is missing out. Good luck.

[OliviaBenson]

Can she not have a meal at after school club? She's effectively having 2 evening meals, cutting one out will go a long way.

[Blankscreen]

I would also say try and get her moving a bit more. Can she do any sports after school instead of eating at the after school club?

My ds (8) who eats a tonne of food but naturally doesn't eat crap does pe twice a week. Then football and tennis for an hour after school each week. Then 1 1/2 of foot ball and rugby at the weekends. He also plays football every playtime at school.

My DD on the other hand is just much lazier and greedier.
It's hard I know.

[Blankscreen]

You can get bagel thins which are lot less calories than a big bagel she might not even notice.
Also french fries crisps are very low fat/calorie compared to normal.crisps.

Low fat hummus with a combo of mini bread sticks and carrot sticks and cucumber sticks are popular here. Mini cheese bites are also good as they're protein so even though they're not low fat they will fill her up. DD likes the novelty of unwrapping the individual ones.

Defo just water to drink in lunch box. At home avoid fruit juice as loads of calories. Just buy no added sugar squash and make it really dilute so very few calories without her feeling hard done by.

[londonista]

Really like the popcorn idea. Am stealing that one for my son's lunchbox!

[Heismyopendoor]

Lunch box, one main (sandwhich, pasta, wrap, etc) and fill it with greens, then one portion of fruit and one of veg. She doesn’t need a treat every day, maybe stick to just a Friday.

Also exercise I would say needs to be upped quite a lot. My dd swims for 8 hours a week plus park, just running about etc. We also will do some YouTube exercise videos too.

[londonista]

Link to the Nairns biccies.
www.nairns-oatcakes.com/oat-biscuits-dark-chocolate-chip

They also do them in mixed berry.

Still not totally virtuous but a good swap all the same.

[londonista]

Her diet doesn't sound great so no surprise she is where she is. I completely understand that it creeps up on you. My son is same age and was whip thin for so long, in the last 18 months has podged out a lot.

From my experience, I would be tempted to not make a huge change in the lunchbox overnight and just gradually upgrade each item to be a slightly healthier choice. Eg my son really enjoys these choc chips biscuits from Nairn's. They are half the sugar and made of oats, and he loves them, they still feel like a treat. Then you could move onto the crisps - the "puff" hula hoops instead of the real ones etc, you use bagel thins instead of a full bagel etc, and bit by bit you're making it healthy, cutting back and she is learning good habits.

I would also try to make the last meal of the day very light and not too carby. My boys enjoy soup in winter and instead of serving it with wedges of bread and butter, I put a small bowl of croutons on the table.

I agree it's difficult but at that age you still have a lot of power to influence her diet. In a couple of years you won't necessarily be able to control what she chooses to eat.

Good luck OP!

[Mymouthgetsmeintrouble]

I have a child who has a limited diet due to having autism , the only sandwich fillings he will eat is jam or nutella to make up for this sugar he has it on wholemeal bread , has carrot sticks , box of raisins , bread sticks and an apple , not great but not awful either and he has stayed a healthy weight , he also has chicken nuggets more than i would like but i serve them with veg so its not all bad , i limit crisps because if he had his way he would just keep snacking on them all the time so my view is if 90% is healthy stuff then the 10% of crap is not going to cause an issue we go on walks as a family and try and get out to play as much as possible i think small changes could help your little girl also remember protein keeps you feeling full so a boiled egg with some yogurt will keep here more satisfied than cereal

[Canadawet]

Right, lots of good ideas, not too time consuming (mornings are sillily busy, so shoving these things in was fast and easy) will stop crisps, chocolate and sugary drinks for sure, gradually over the first week after half term. And replace bagel with wrap, excellent idea again. Easy to shove veg sticks in the wrap I think. I will have a word with breakfast club, (she doesn't have breakfast at home on top), big problem is after school care, they have a proper tea with pasta left overs from school dinners sometimes or sandwiches, so having a family meal as well is clearly too much, but she feels excluded if we eat without her or left out from the ASC. In term of exercise she does taekwondo once a week plus 2 PE sessions, I got her to wear my Fitbit last week (all the rage at school at the moment) and she was doing 10-12k steps per day, so not too bad. She is getting self conscious now, with the beginning of puberty as well, not helping.

[formerbabe]

My dc only ever have water in their lunchbox. So that's an easy thing to change.

I'd aim for...

One main thing...ie sandwich, pasta salad, wrap, bagel as you said.

Then

One veg...so carrot batons, cucumber slices, strips of pepper.

One piece of fruit.

Then I'd include one very small treat. Maybe a small, plain biscuit...not a chocolatey one. If they like something crunchy, a small amount of plain popcorn which you make yourself..no toppings. Or some mini breadsticks.

No sweets, chocolate, crisps.

A good rule I have is veg with every meal. And at least one piece of fruit everyday.

[kateandme]

you can get the thin bagels now too which are half the size.
try to first get her into other foods,healthy ones.so it isn't like you are punishing her and reducing her.expecially if the others are going to be.
try to talk gently about health diets.
could you cook together so her interest and feeling behind food isn't just now going to be about how to reduce her weight.its about teaching her a balance and to enjoy it in that balanced way.so cooking or her seeing portions will help.
I worry because if you suddenly change and reduce her diet food will become something it never should,expeically not in girls her age.
so tyr and get at it other ways.ask her for help.say you want to get more fruit and veg into the familys diet.so its not singling her out. get her tp pick some fruits and veggies to try.
mine loved little pots of roasted veg.sweet potato,peppers and tomato in her packed lunch with a wrap.
are you the type of people to do notes.a little tub of carrot battons,straberries,grapes etc with a little love you note.detrats away from you shoving something healthy in there and instead shes just thinking mum left a note.
pitta chips made by oven cooking triangles cut out of tortillas.
oven cooked banana or apples.
making a fruit salad.melon,kiwi.strawberrys,berrys.
little tubs with fruit stirred through and granola.
some salad I nthe sandwhich
this needs to be about learning what good in balance and working together not cutting her food down because shes 'too big' 'lose weight' this will only bring shame.
but her bagel and lunch doesn't sound bad hun.its in context and with all the other added stuff that it has become that so don't be down on you not knowig anything or doing the wrong thing.
can you try new fruit and veg or lunches at home altogether first then wich she likes and can then ad to lunch.
another sweet ours loves are starberrys or cherrys,raspberries covered in yoghurt and frozen they make great little treat bites.
stewed apple with some roasted oats and cornflakes on top
get her loving good food so it becomes her choice.
I know it must feel hard especially with a daughter at this age and body image etc.but if she knows you love and support her there isn't much you cant sort.

[RainbowWish]

Rice cakes instead of crips is always an idea.

[dementedpixie]

The bagels we have say 220 kcals. Brioche burger rolls 157 kcals. Ds alternates between the 2

[AlexanderHamilton]

If she has to take crisps (Ds would rebel big time) then make sure they are small (multipack) baked ones like French fries, wotsits or hummus chips). Bagels are higher in calories, try a bread roll or wrap instead. More filling, less or no butter & lots of salad if she will eat it.

For the treat something like a lower fat rice pudding pot is more filling & nutritous than chocolate.

Definitely include fruit. Also things like soft cheese & crispbreads

[Loveache]

Bagels have about 290 calories a pop- change to 'toaster' brown bread. Water instead of juice. Chocolate or crisps, not both. Educate yourself about calories and try to have an idea of her intake. Protein at breakfast so she feels fuller for longer. No carbs at dinner if possible.

[dementedpixie]

Ds takes a bagel or brioche burger roll, strawberries/grapes, yoghurt, flavoured water and small biscuit item

[delilahbucket]

Ditch the bagels, they're full of sugar. Corn tortilla wraps are a good one for lunches. Up the protein, so things like chicken/turkey/cottage cheese/eggs and she is less likely to feel hungry later on. Lots of fresh veg is always a winner. My DS likes carrot and cucumber with a little pot of houmous. No need for crisps and chocolate. One or the other if you want to include a treat. If she's happy with just water then that's great!
Definitely speak to school club about the kinds of things she's eating there. This should be a small and healthy snack, no more than 100 calories, to keep her going until tea.
Does she do any out of school activities like swimming?