Who did you walk down the aisle with at your wedding?

[Iecydda]

Don't want my dad to "give me away" - bleurgh!!

But not sure I fancy the walk on my own?

Not that we are having an aisle as such, it will be into the centre of a circle as we've chosen to have all of our guests form a circle around us (small wedding, just family and a few close friends).

We have a gorgeous little girl together who will be flower girl and one much older bridesmaid.

I'd love to hear suggestions/about what others have done.

[Usernameisgone]

My brother walked me down the aisle

[Terranean]

Registry and just with the one family due to travel issues. End on divorce, luckily no children. Now marriage free with two children for 20 odd years.

[YetAnotherSpartacus]

Marriage free :)

[DumbestBlonde]

I first asked my Grandfather, as he and Grandmother had brought me up from age three. He did not want fuss as he was recovering from a heart attack.
I then asked my Father (their son) with whom I had on and off contact throughout my life, more so as an adult. He did, however, live in France, but was regularly here for business.
He agreed, but changed his mind (urgent matter in France, he said) two days before, and shot off back to Bordeaux.
I then had to ask his brother, my uncle, who had featured largely in my life. If nothing else, the hire morning suit fit him OK.

Speaking of which, his wife, my aunt had already interfered when I had my grown up male cousins as ushers, and boycotted me hiring their suits, as "God wants us to be thrifty" (Mormons.)

My Uncle then gave a disparaging "Father - ^sigh -of the Bride Speech", making fun of me to the hugely diverse guests.....
And my absent (always) Father made a phone call to me that I had to walk into the main bar of the hotel to respond to, the oh-so-glamorous Man of effing Mystery.

You could not make this shit up

All the lovely stories are SO nice. I really should have just not asked anyone....

[dratalanta]

We each walked down the aisle with both of our parents (one on each side). Marriages are about family, so we wanted the parents included in the ceremony. If we had children, we would probably have chosen to walk with them instead, but we didn't, so parents it was!

But it was important to me that we both did the same thing. I wouldn't have wanted it to seem like my parents were involved and DW's weren't (lesbian here). If I'd been marrying someone who didn't want to walk with their parents, I might have walked down alone.

Although men don't usually walk with their parents, especially men marrying women, I've been to several heterosexual weddings where they did exactly what we did (each partner accompanied by both/all available parents). In fact it was a straight wedding we went to fifteen years ago which gave us the idea.

[PioneerWoman]

My Dad was lovely but I walked briskly down myself. I don’t enjoy fuss. Did my own hair and make up (tinted moisturiser, lipstick and brushed my hair) and bought some flowers en route. You should do whatever feels comfortable to you.

[TedImgoingmad]

My dad walked me down the aisle, but he didn't give me away. I did the whole traditional white wedding thing because I was trying to make everyone happy, and my mother was very ill, so I just wanted to keep the peace. Also DH's family are quite traditional, so I didn't want to call attention to my family's general weirdness by doing anything "different". I hated the whole thing. There's almost nothing about my wedding I wouldn't change if I could turn back the clock. Including actually getting married, to be honest. We did have a fucking amazing band though, so that was good!

[Wanttocry]

DH. We got ready and arrived together, and walked in together.

[MaMelon]

I walked down with my dad but he very definitely didn't give me away.

[RickiTarr]

With my children.

[SuperSange]

Church wedding and I walked myself down the aisle. I'm a big girl now. 😉

[frazzledasarock]

My best friend, I've known her since I was four.

She also did a reading from my favourite book.

I love her to bits, she's closer than a sister to me and having her there supporting me made the day perfect for me.

[Ughmaybenot]

I asked my older brother to walk with me. He’s wonderful and we’re very close, it was lovely.

[BillieSpain]

My Dsis walked DH down the aisle and my Dbil walked me.

My parents didn't come to my wedding, it was too much effort for them

If I was to get married again I'd walk by myself or more likely registry office with my (new) DH, together.

[FerretFumbler]

Photographer had to peer through the very dirty window to get some shots!
Good luck with the wedding x

[FerretFumbler]

Walked in on my own.
Registry office and husband to be was there, waiting at the table. 4 x kids (2 old enough to be witnesses) were there on chairs, far apart wearing masks!

[ApplesinmyPocket]

My DD got married three weeks ago; it was very important to her that her dad walked her down the aisle until they reached her DH-to-be. It was a civil ceremony and the lovely registrar explained to the guests that this was no longer seen as a 'giving away' as if the bride were property of one man and now the property of another man, but just a symbol that the bride's family would always be there to support her even after she made her own new family with her DH.

It was DD's firmly avowed choice that she should walk in with her beloved father beside her. But she could have chosen me, or to walk in alone, or her sister, or to have another person she loved beside her. It's not like it used to be, much more flexible. Have it how you feel it would feel most meaningful for you.

[NiceGerbil]

Not RTFT.

Why not walk in arm in arm with your DH to be?

That would be lovely I think.

[OvaHere]

*registry

Sorry it's late

[OvaHere]

Register Office, walked in with my partner and our daughter.

[Castlepeak]

DH and I walked in together.
I don’t actually remember what we had the best man and maid of honor do.

[Imissmoominmama]

My son- he was 10. I wanted him to have a really important role in the wedding.

[starrynight21]

First - Dad ( not to "give me away", just to take that walk with my lovely Dad).
Second - my son who was holding his little daughter.

[Ginandplatonic]

We got married on our verandah and both just mingled with the guests in the garden drinking champagne as people were gathering (I wasn’t wearing a traditional wedding dress). There was a string quartet playing and at the appointed time we had them play something recognisably “wedding-y” (Pachelbel’s Canon from memory) and we just kind of moved to the verandah ready to start.

We didn’t have traditional best man and bridesmaids, but DH’s friend and my two close friends, who signed the register and each read a poem, stood near us to one side.

Like you, I objected to the whole “giving away” thing. My dad had died a few years before, I think it would have been harder had he been alive because he was such a lovely man, but a traditionalist and wouldn’t have understood. We did include something in the vows for both our mums to do with welcoming the other person to the family - can’t quite remember. It was a while ago!

[AlCalavicci]

I am the same as @Lnix my my DM died long before I got married and MY DD died a year before hand .
I would of loved my DD to of walked me down the aisle, but it was not to be .
My DB did though and I will never forget the look on his face when I asked him if he would do me the honour .