DM is in a nursing home with dementia.
She is self funding.
Her 3 daughters (including me) have POA.
We have been told that she is allowed £23.50 per week for herself.
Is it ok to allocate that money into an account so she has money
for new clothes, hair cut and toiletries. Also she still wants to give
money for birthday presents for her Great Grandchildren.
And money for Christmas gifts for others.
It was only ever £20 per child. Did that since they were born.
They are now teenagers.
Elderly parents
Allowance of £23.50
Whatmonth · 14/04/2023 09:30
Whatmonth · 14/04/2023 14:32
Thank you for all your advice.
We were under the impression that she wasn't allowed to spend more than 23.50 per week silly us.
Plenty of money in her account.
Not sure how much longer she has.
1 month, 1 year or longer.
What a sad end to an interesting life.
Now frail, incontinent, confused, hardly eating unless its cake.
The only ones she knows is the great grandchildren and for some reason my husband.
toiletinacupboard · 14/04/2023 09:35
you work hard all your life, career, houses, family and this is how it ends? £23 a week?
FML
Idratherbepaddleboarding · 14/04/2023 17:10
This is the most depressing thing I’ve ever heard, sorry OP. I’m glad it sounds like your poor mum is “allowed” to spend more than £23.50 a week. It’s awful that some others, who’ve worked all their lives are allowed so little at the end 😢.
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Whatmonth · 14/04/2023 11:57
We arranged for mum to go into a home nothing to do with the local authority.
Who didn't want to know as mum has money.
She has enough savings to last for another 10 years with the sale of her house, pensions and her investments.
She is in the later stages of dementia now. Aged 88.
There are enough clothes in her wardrobe.
All we pay out after the care home fees are for hair cuts and toiletries.
Pads are included with the fees.
All she talks about now is the great grandchildren and giving them money to buy comics and sweets ( thinks they are all little)
Funny she remembers their births but not us 3 or our children.
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