We were placed under pressure by my father and were forced to move him and my mother into our home on a temporary basis while we looked for somewhere for them to live independently. They are self funding and have the money to live somewhere lovely and comfortable. We have identified lots of places and they have rejected them all and are still here six months later. They say they are very unhappy living with us and make that very obvious all the time but won’t do anything about it. They have completely taken over our home and made our lives impossible but I can’t find a solution. I became ill and had contact from a social prescriber but they couldn’t help because this is seen as a private family matter. Just wondered if anyone could give me any advice as we are all going under 😟
Elderly parents
Hoppinggreen · 21/03/2023 09:56
Give them a date and tell (not ask) them to leave by then.
It may damage your relationship with them but it sounds like that’s happening already
PragmaticWench · 21/03/2023 09:59
If they have the money to buy, they can rent until they buy. You and your partner need to present a firm front, together, and say 'enough' .
Chowtime · 21/03/2023 11:54
I think a PP has the right answer - organise somewhere for them to rent whilst they look for a permenant home.
If they complain that they don't like the rental you can always say "well it's not forever, it's just till you find somewhere you want to buy". Bet they get a move on then.
Really though, it sounds as though they just want to live with you and have moved in by stealth.
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HappySoon · 21/03/2023 13:07
It has been assisted living that we have been looking at @tara66 . I am beginning to think as several people have referred to cognitive ability that it may be part of this i.e. knowing you are not happy with your situation but only being able to create obstacles rather than make progress
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