Doctors have just moved my mum onto end of life pathway

[JontyDoggle37]

She’s been in hospital two weeks after a fall and pneumonia, suddenly deteriorated this afternoon, barely conscious and quite distresssed now. Doctors have said this it, waiting for my husband and could do with a handhold

[MereDintofPandiculation]

[stucknoue]

thinking of you

[Mummyh2016]

Please take time to care for yourself. 5 years ago I spent a week watching my grandad pass away, I remember that final drive home from hospital vividly. It was a relief that things were now going to get back to normal, until I realised it meant he was no longer with us so things weren't going to be normal again. It's such a big thing being with someone as they pass on

[Outsomnia]

So very sorry for you all. You must be exhausted.

I had many a tear in my eye reading your story. It mirrors that of so many including myself. I sat with dear Mum every day all day and many a night too. Played her favourite songs on the ipad with earphones in her ears. She smiled a lot when she heard her favourite songs, but was not speaking much.

All I can say is that a peaceful passing with no distress is what everyone one of us would like for ourselves and our loved ones. And having seen the kindness and dignity with which Mum was treated was such a comfort. She passed away when I went out for a walk around the block. They often do that. But I have no regrets on that front at all.

And they often rally too for a day or so. I couldn't believe it. One day she was nearly gone, then bingo! back to sitting up, drinking her favourite pineapple juice off a spoon and having a bit of a laugh for an hour or two. One day later she was gone.

Bless you and bless them all.

[thesandwich]

So sorry for your loss 🌺🌺

[ineedaholidaynow]

[PonderingPanda]

[Windygate]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your mum passed peacefully

[MrsMozartMkII]

Have been thinking of you and your Mum.

May she rest in peace

[greathat]

Sorry for your loss. Remember to look after yourself now

[maimeo]

May your lovely mum Rest In Peace, Jonty, and may you have peace and strength over the coming days

[Finfintytint]

[rainbowruthie]

Sending kind thoughts

[Drum2018]

So sorry for your loss. Get a good rest tonight. You've had such a tough few days. Don't be rushed into any arrangements. Take time to do things as you feel best.

[VictoriaBun]

I'm sorry for your loss.
You will look back on this and wonder how you managed and coped, but it is done with love. Take care of yourself.

[InTheHeatofLisbon]

Oh Jonty I'm glad this part is over, for you and for your Mum.

Whatever happens next, take it in your own time. As pp said, expecting it doesn't make it easier. Sending love.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Glad your vigil is over Jonty and so sorry you've joined the team of those who watched and waited.

Sending love and strength for the next bit. Knowing it was coming does not ease the heartache ❤️

[Weenurse]

Glad she passed peacefully after her sisters visit. 💐 and hugs

[Linseedlill]

I'm sorry for your loss op. It's still a huge shock even when it is expected, so go easy on yourself. It was so good that you could be with your mum in her last days and hours and I'm relieved for you both that the end was peaceful

[ajandjjmum]

Sending you love and thoughts. Glad your Mum passed peacefully - I know that will give you comfort over the coming days.

[JontyDoggle37]

Thank you everyone for all your support. Mum held on long enough for her sister (who’s also been unwell) to visit, and passed away peacefully this morning about ten minutes after her sister left.

[Lepetitpiggy]

Echoing what others have said - mum was given a week after two devastating stokes that took her mind off to some alternative reality (luckily in a good way!) and she lasted 3 months

[Lepetitpiggy]

I was there six months ago - it's not easy, at times I was willing her to die, at others, hating myself for feeling that way
You will get through it though- I promise

[ajandjjmum]

Thinking of you Jonty - and sorry, but it could go on for longer. Such a hard time. You must take care of yourself.

[Linseedlill]

Just checking in again op - still thinking of you.

I remember this time (with my father and dparentinlaw) as being very surreal and strange. It's hard to reconcile life bustling along outside with everything you are confronting in the hospital. It's very draining so do take care of yourself. Lovely that your ds could offer comfort!

Wishing your mum peace and comfort.