My grandad is 91. I've posted on here before about how challenging he can be for my dm. She and my ddad have gone away for a much needed holiday, so I'm on grandad duty.
He's a difficult character, his health isn't brilliant,, but he's recently had a couple of days in hospital due to a water and throat infection, and the doctors discharged him commenting on how good he was for his age.
He was awful to my mum when he found out they were going on holiday, he's very good at sulking and emotional blackmail. I know that sounds harsh, but its the best way to describe his behaviour.
He's rung me this morning at half 7. We'd only just woken up so I rang him back at 8. He wants me to go and make his breakfast. After a long, almost argumentative call he started pleading with me to go over because he needed some company. He said mum had told him I'd go straightaway if he rang. (She didn't, she said I'd go if there was an emergency ).
This is what he does to mum on an almost daily basis. He lays the guilt on her, as he has done to me this morning.
He should be in a care home but refuses to go, he just expects one of us to drop everything and attend to him whenever he calls. He has carers during the week but refuses to pay for them to go at the weekend.
I live half an hour away and have a houseful for Sunday lunch so am very loathe to go as I'm 99% sure he's fine, it's just aaarrghh... hate saying this, but he's attention seeking. He doesn't like that mum has gone away. I will call him later and go over tomorrow. But I'm really not sure if I've handled this right.
Thanks for sticking with this if you've read it. Just don't want to trouble my mum and ask her, as she really needs a break from all this. Need to sound it out though
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Am I handling this right?
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41notTrendy · 17/02/2013 09:09
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