I have searched high and low for someone in our situation but no luck! I’m hoping someone here might have had a similar experience that could help or reassure me..
I have 2 beautiful children from a previous relationship and have been struggling to have a baby with my current partner for 2 and a half years now. We have had several miscarriages and an ectopic rupture, and failed IVF. My partner doesn’t have any children of his own. He adores my kids and they him, but he always hoped to have his own biological child and is profoundly sad at the idea of not having any. I would love a 3rd and would also love to make that happen for him. But I turn 45 this month and feel like I need to face the reality that my body just can’t make it happen anymore.
There is the possibility of donor eggs. But it makes me so nervous. I trust I would love and connect with the child and can get my head around that part. But I worry about my two kids, who technically wouldn’t be related to it at all and how they would cope with that. And how it would make the donor child feel. I worry the baby will be viewed as my partner’s kid and not ours and mine too. I worry about putting my two children through something complicated to get their heads around when they have already had to go through a separation and coming to terms with their dad’s and my new lives. They’ve done so well but it hasn’t been without bumps and its taken them a long time to feel settled and accept my current partner. They are 11 and almost 8. They really love him
and are very comfortable with him but it was already nerve wracking thinking of telling them
about us having a baby that would be a biological sibling. If I had been able to have a baby using my own eggs I feel like that would have been an easier transition for them and all of us, but I just haven’t found anyone in this seemingly niche situation and wondered if someone out there has done this with success and had any tips etc?
Please no comments on my age etc.
Thank you so much. x
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Lillyalice · 15/01/2024 12:41
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