Hi
I am a 44 year old female and have been struggling to become a solo mum by choice for about 3.5 years now. I had 4 failed IUIs, then 4 FETs with my own eggs (two early losses and two BFNs). Last year I used donor eggs and had two more FETs - one was an early loss and the other a miscarriage at 7.5 weeks (with haemorrhage - very traumatic). I feel like almost everyone else who pursues this route seems to eventually have success. Stories of SMBC are everywhere these days and, whilst I'm very happy to hear them and that solo mums are becoming normalised, I rarely hear voices from people who have tried and did not succeed or perhaps tried and then decided against it or moved onto adoption or a childfree life. It's quite isolating struggling for years and not really having anyone to speak to about it who truly understands.
On the Mumsnet Donor Conception forum, you can discuss sperm and egg donation with people in the same situation.
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Anyone else struggling to become a solo mum by choice?
AnnaLCox · 03/01/2024 23:10
AnnaLCox · 10/01/2024 10:43
Ah thanks Nearlythere80 - that's so encouraging to hear. I'm sure many adoption stories are happy ones but, for some reason, it's always the negatives you seem to hear about. Glad it worked out well for your friend!
AnnaLCox · 10/01/2024 10:43
Ah thanks Nearlythere80 - that's so encouraging to hear. I'm sure many adoption stories are happy ones but, for some reason, it's always the negatives you seem to hear about. Glad it worked out well for your friend!
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