I'm 32, single and would absolutely love to have a baby of my own. I've been wanting one since I was about 27, but only thought of the donor route about a year or so ago.
I always thought that if I was to fall pregnant unexpectedly, it would be so wanted. However, I did recently have a pregnancy scare with someone who definitely would not have wanted to stick around. I turned out not pregnant of course. But in that moment, I suddenly panicked and thought "oh no, how will I cope if I am? How can I raise a baby alone?".
So my question, as the title, how did you know you were ready to be a single mother? I am still considering a sperm donor as I'm not getting any younger and I do really want a baby, or at least think I do? Is it possible to want a baby and still be absolutely petrified?
Financially, did you panic? I work a stable job, earning around 45K a year, which will obviously significantly drop as I wouldn't be able to work full-time. I own a house with about 35K left on the mortgage. Part of me feels like that is more than what many single mothers survive on. The other part of me thinks will I be able to give my child the best life?
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Single mothers by choice - how did you know you were ready?
wintertime15 · 14/11/2023 22:11
Stanno · 05/01/2024 20:00
I am about to start the IVF process alone after splitting with my ( infertile) ex fiance when we were in the midst of IVF appointments. I’ve toyed with whether I can do this on my own or not but I’m 41 now and don’t think I can wait to find ‘the one’ again. I’m absolutely terrified but know that if I don’t try this then I’ll regret it.
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