Ex husband moved out start of January.
I was pretty much always the party before then initiating conversations about what we would do, where we were at. Trying to make this work etc.
Anyway I’ve surprised myself by just not wanting to have any meaningful or proper conversations with him at all. He’s very angry - which makes little sense - but communication is terse and limited to children.
I fully expected that I would want to talk things though, to see where he’s at, to try and find closure or something. But I want nothing of the kind. I don’t want any of those conversations. I don’t care what narrative he has about it all, I don’t care about closure, I don’t care what he thinks about any of it.
I don’t think any of that is a bad thing but I wonder does it change?
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Surprised but I don’t want to have any real conversation with Ex H
Verysad1978 · 11/04/2024 08:41
CharleneRobertaMcGee · 12/04/2024 14:26
I am so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Almost 24 years together and we split up six weeks ago and all I feel is relief.
I very rarely give him a second thought and only in relation to the children. Early on, he kept asking if I felt lonely and I had to honestly answer that I feel less lonely than I did living with him. It's just so freeing and I hope this feeling continues.
I don't love or hate him, I just feel indifferent to him, after years of tears, grieving the marriage we should have had, I honestly think I've got closure.
Now it's early days and I fully expect him to try and financially fuck me but you know , it's just money and at the end of the day I can shut my door and be at peace from his crap. That knowledge is cheap at twice the price and I pay it happily.
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