Ex refusing to show financial statements

[Divorcenightmare76]

My ex has been asked 2 or 3 times by my solicitor to show bank statements but won't and wants to sort it out between us but also wants to give me a very measly amount, if anything at all!
He literally can't bear the fact that I might be entitled to anything. We also have a young child together.
He also wouldn't sign the divorce petition which was sent to him twice.
I now have to go down the Ancillary relief order and use barristers which is going to cost an absolute fortune.This was not what I wanted.
I can't believe how utterly stubborn and stingy and horrid my ex is being.
I don't know what I'm asking, it's just a rant really.
Never thought getting divorced would be this difficult. Just feeling so awful tonight, and terrified at what's in front of me.

[millymollymoomoo]

Why are expecting to see bank statements?

has your solicitor requested financial
disclosure ( from both of you ?)
have you completed firm e ( both of you?)

what’s your working situation?
have you applied for cms?

[Divorcenightmare76]

@millymollymoomoo yes I have handed in all my financial details in but he won't. I've been told this is the next step, we have tried for over a year to get him to respond and he won't sign anything or do the financial disclosure so I now have to get a court order to make him do it. He does pay cms

[HappyToSmile]

Does he have a solicitor? My ex also refused to swap details. It took months. In the end, my solicitor wrote saying if we didn't have it by x date, we would have no option but to take it to court. I'm guessing you've tried this?
(Ps my ex then produced an unfinished form E....)

[Divorcenightmare76]

@HappyToSmile yes he has a solicitor and mine wrote to them and said that we have no option but to take things court as the next step, and that has been ignored

[HappyToSmile]

How much is the difference between what he is offering and what you believe is fair?
I know it's not the normal thing to say, but sometimes you need to cut your losses. Court will cost ££££ so if that will wipe out anything you would expect to get, plus all the extra time and emotional damage, you have to work out what's worth it

[Elektra1]

@millymollymoomoo

Why are expecting to see bank statements?

has your solicitor requested financial
disclosure ( from both of you ?)
have you completed firm e ( both of you?)

what’s your working situation?
have you applied for cms?

Probably because Form E requires provision of 12 months' bank statements?

[millymollymoomoo]

Ok perhaps my point not worded well
i was asking if official form e and fimanc disclosure had been requested or if op just expecting bank statements

she has answered

ultimately if he doesn’t provide op will have to force it to go to court

[millymollymoomoo]

Unless she agrees settlement without it

[Divorcenightmare76]

@HappyToSmile I actually believe he doesn't think I should get anything, he's insanely tight fisted and aways has been. I did mention the sum of 20k and he almost had a heart attack and said there was no chance.
I would be owed a good deal more than this according to my solicitor.
I also just want to get divorced and he won't sign anything. So this feels like the only way.