My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
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We agreed on splitting assets and now we don't. Can I now ask for the court to decide or is it too late?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 11:05
Has there been any order about the finances or have you just come to an informal agreement so far?
How much is the cost of the house goods you are concerned with? It's unlikely to be worth the time, cost and uncertainty of court for a realtively small amount. It sounds as if you have been amicable so far, is there any way of reopening the conversation?
More importantly, I noticed that when you talked about his pension you sounded as if you were assuming rather than working from hard figures. Have you had proper financial disclosure and have you got a very clear picture of exactly what is in his pension and any other accounts? Have you had any legal advice? It's always a worry that the 'being amicable' is a way of pulling the wool over your eyes as to what's really at stake.
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:21
Well firstly she has clearly said she doesn’t want his family money and secondly she is asking about the legal position not the views of others as to what the right outcome would be.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:27
Secondly,.. she said doesn't want all, but some.. and for legal advise should contact a lawyer. However legally if she did not contribute to any expenses, and not able to prove she paid for furniture, she will not get it.
Third I understand you don't like my view, however it is unfair to ask money if you decided to split up with your partner/husband.
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:21
Well firstly she has clearly said she doesn’t want his family money and secondly she is asking about the legal position not the views of others as to what the right outcome would be.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:36
Well you’re welcome to follow your view if you divorce but it’s not the legal position.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:27
Secondly,.. she said doesn't want all, but some.. and for legal advise should contact a lawyer. However legally if she did not contribute to any expenses, and not able to prove she paid for furniture, she will not get it.
Third I understand you don't like my view, however it is unfair to ask money if you decided to split up with your partner/husband.
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:21
Well firstly she has clearly said she doesn’t want his family money and secondly she is asking about the legal position not the views of others as to what the right outcome would be.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:52
I'm sorry to disappointing you, but, my ex didn't get a penny as everything was paid by me.
A good argument in court, will give this outcome.
If you are a lawyer, you should know.
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:36
Well you’re welcome to follow your view if you divorce but it’s not the legal position.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:27
Secondly,.. she said doesn't want all, but some.. and for legal advise should contact a lawyer. However legally if she did not contribute to any expenses, and not able to prove she paid for furniture, she will not get it.
Third I understand you don't like my view, however it is unfair to ask money if you decided to split up with your partner/husband.
Mia85 · 09/04/2024 22:21
Well firstly she has clearly said she doesn’t want his family money and secondly she is asking about the legal position not the views of others as to what the right outcome would be.
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
Marmight · 11/04/2024 12:44
Do you rent or own your home?
Mortgaged or mortgage free?
MauveTigerfd · 09/04/2024 22:03
Hi, I don't think it's fair what you are asking, I mean to get the money his family gave.
In uiur Conditional application, did you specified the amount of the money to be shared and in particular the money kept in his account? If not, I don't think it is fair to ask for it.
Another point, the furniture, can you prove you purchased and/or contributed to the purchase?
Pension: you have been off work, so it's obvious he has a bit more, however, he worked for that, and to be fair, should be his money, not yours. Both of you worked, but you want more from his pension. Why?
I am under the impression you what his money and don't appreciate that while you were off work, he paid everything for you and guaranteed a roof over your head. This, doesn't repay you enough?
Jeany1967 · 09/04/2024 10:09
My divorce with my husband has been quite amicable so far and my application for a conditional order has just now been accepted.
We'd agreed on how we were going to split our finances. We have saved money while we were together and will split this only.
We have been given money over our 20 years together from his family but he has always kept that in a separate account and he had money before we met. When we spoke of divorce (my decision mainly) he assumed that we'd just be splitting the money that we have accumulated since we've been together.
Am I being a tad naive? I was off work for around 3 years when we had our two young children and so he'd have slightly more pension then me. But another issue is that I moved out of the family home (rented) and left most of the furniture there and we have always agreed that it would all be split when we are divorced. He made a comment this morning about this possibly not happening so I just want to know where I stand?
The conditional order has been granted and I said that we agreed on how to split things on the initial divorce application but am I too late to ask the court to decide? I'm not saying I want to go for half the money his family have given us over the years (even though they gave it to us as a family) but I'm worried that once the divorce is finalised I won't receive anything from the house goods.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
J
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