Very long story but to try and cut it short - think we've both been less than happy for longer than we'd care to admit. Various events have now led me to decide that it's over and I want a divorce but we can't afford for him to move out, he has lost contact with any friends he did have and he has no family that can/will help. We now face months trapped in the family home with DD8 and DS5 whilst we try and sort everything out - we don't even have a spare bedroom. I think we should change the dynamic/routines slightly but not tell the children the full story until we are closer to actually living apart, he disagrees. Can anyone offer any advice or the benefit of their own similar experience please ?
Just really struggling to know how to handle things, don't want to spring things on the children by any means but don't want to prolong the whole thing or make it confusing for them either. We have our first mediation session this week and I'm hoping that might offer some idea of timeframe but perhaps that's naive ? I was thinking that we need to get the house on the market asap and perhaps tell the children when it's sold and therefore the bigger changes are imminent.
So confused and this 'limbo' period is very hard emotionally - feel that the decision is made and I just want to get all the practical things sorted asap. Know it's all going to be made harder by a husband who is Olympic champion at burying his head in the sand and despite me telling him back in Feb that we were at a crossroads and that I was seeking counselling to try and sort my head out. Had the house valued at the end of March and had a consultation with a solicitor then too - both of which he knew about - still doesn't actually believe it's going to happen !!
Any support gratefully received.
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JohPa · 21/05/2017 21:45
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