Partner refuses to move out ...his decision

[witsend100]

My partner of 11 yrs announced in Feb that he didn't love me any more and wanted to separate. We have 1 DD (9yrs) and he has 2 older kids by his ex-wife.
A big enough shock in itself but he refuses to move out. It's now been more than 6 months and I feel bullied into trying to sort out a financial settlement. I am trying to buy him out so at least myself and DD can stay in house in short term.
I earn about £25k more than him and everything I earn has been for us as a family and towards making our house a home. I realise now that he has invested very little emotionally or financially towards the family.
I supported him when he was out of job and when he confessed about 5 years ago that he had run up personal debts of approx. £20k I lent him £7.5k and we added £10k to our mortgage. Despite initially agreeing to repay these amounts when a mutual friend stepped in to try to mediate he has now gone back on his word.
It's hard enough when a long term relationship breaks down suddenly but I don't understand why he doesn't leave the property? I feel so fragile and so close to just giving up I don't what's going to happen. I work full-time and can't understand why he is being so cruel. I have begged him to leave the property but he flatly refuses. We have both now sought legal advice but whilst my solicitor is very efficient and turns letters around very quickly his solicitor is excruciatingly slow.
He seems to enjoy playing it cool and acting very smug whilst I am a complete mess. I worry the effect it will have on our DD as it's really beginning to effect her.
I am not sleeping or eating very well and I just don't know how to carry on.

[AnyFucker]

He won't want to lose his meal ticket will he, even if he doesn't want a relationship with you

I hope you have ceased sleeping with him, or doing any domestic chores that benefit him

Keep pushing your solicitor to sort out the financial side

When it is uncomfortable enough for him, he will go