Undertaking from court in place but H still abusing! what should I do?

[bella1968]

the undertaking was given when the non-molestation/occupation order was rescinded by the court on 26th June, he was allowed back in the property however he said to the children that I was dangerous and that I would call the police and have him arrested.

My solicitor sent him a letter yesterday asking him what his intentions are as if he doesn't wish to return until the undertaking is over on 26th December we don't need to go back to the court at this stage. It clearly made him angry because at 7.20 last night he came to the door, unlocked the door and called for the children whilst I was in the kitchen and could hear him. My d asked what he was doing here and he said "I wanted to see you as I have a legal right to do so" and then proceeded to tell the children that I'd signed and sent him a letter that accused him of sexual assault and rape, the children asked what rape was and he said go and ask your mother!!!! anyway he eventually went after I told him that if he hadn't anything nice to say then he should just go. AFter he went we went round to our next door neighbour all very upset, he called on the phone which I had with me and then proceeded to speak to the children again about the same thing going on and on to them.

My neighbour said I should just let him speak to them but now I think I should have given them 5 minutes maybe then cut it off if he was talking about stuff that was between me and H and shouldn't involve them. I will do this now I'm so furious with him, this is outright abuse how could he not know this and if he's saying that i'll call the police how does he not think that I'd do this based on what he's just done!?!?!?!

I've emailed my solicitor to explain what he's done so just waiting for a response, I'm so cross that this has happened. To all those that thought your advise was falling on deaf ears, I'm not thinking that 1. he's not going to change and 2. I'm seriously considering just divorcing him and getting this over and done with!!!!

Any advice on how I cope with all of this and still try to protect and help my children's mental health??!! My D even said that she didn't remember that Daddy had been shouting and swearing at her and her B but only to me!!!! I couldn't believe it and now feel that this has severly affected her mental well being if she can't even remember this, is she blocking it out or just trying to keep the peace and lying to protect her Daddy??