h was forced to leave after a DA incident involving him threatening me with a knife last year.I had asked him to leave a number of times before, he always said he would but never did.
After the last incident he had no choice because I was scared and phoned the police. I didn't take out an injunction as long as he found somewhere else to live.
However he hangs around the house like a bad smell and it's difficult to get rid of him as he says he cannot have the dc where he lives as he only has one room in a shared house. So in order to see the dc, he has to come to the house.
He pays child maintenance but nothing towards the mortgage. I get help with the mortgage through SMI mortgage benefit assistance but I still have to find £400 a month towards the mortgage.
I was forced to give up work when he left as he refused to continue looking after the children and my shifts meant childcare was impossible.
I want a divorce. I want to be free, financially as much as anything else. I cannot work atm as I would lose the SMI benefit. In order to pay everything I need his help with little things. I hate this and I hate that he has this hold on me. I also hate not being able to work. I feel trapped.
When we were together he ran up a lot of debt. Most of it in his name, some of it in joint names. We are currently in a DMP paying it off (one of the things I am still tied to him with)
There is no equity in the house. We may be lucky to break even if we sold and paid off the fees involved in selling. More than likely we would be left with a shortfall.
There are no assets or savings. Just a big pile of debt.
What would happen in a divorce? Is there anyway out for me?
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spookysal · 07/01/2013 11:14
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