No idea what to do - (much) younger woman

[WhatwouldyoudoWHATWOULDYOUDO]

OK, so am donning my asbestos suit for the flaming... but would appreciate some serious thoughts.

I'm a single 40-odd bloke with a young DC, and I'm finding myself attracted to someone at work. She's mid twenties, but mature for her age and v interesting person. We share quite a lot in common and I'm starting to suspect she has a bit of a thing for me. So, lots of soul-searching...

Obviously, this isn't anywhere near an actual relationship yet. I haven't even asked her out and maybe she just likes the attention - but I'm not going to blindly jump into something that may end up going somewhere. I'm not interested in a fling or a "this could be fun, lets see what happens" relationship. I want a proper relationship and, well, I'm not going to get into a serious relationship with a woman who may want a family one day if I'm not wanting this myself.

While I'm not actively looking to start a new family from scratch, I'm pretty sure if I was with the right woman then that's what I'd want. Only there's the guilt. Not only for my former DP, having to see me start a family with a much younger woman, but for my DC who may feel excluded and betrayed. After all, I'd only be spending half my time with DC and all my time with a new family. So, has anyone any experience of this where it's worked out? Or does it sound like a recipe for disaster?

[brewgirl]

You are single? Yes? She is single? Ask her out. Go on, go, on go on. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Women are far more mature than men anyway ducks :)

[UrbaneFox]

I went out with older men a few times in my 20s, but there's no way I'd do it now.

I agree with the others, if you're single ask her out, but don't be too shocked if she just sees you as mr right now and not mr right. YOu are nearly 20 years older than her is that right? That's a big age gap. I work with people nearly 20 years younger than I am and I seriously can't imagine having a relationship .

[SirVixofVixHall]

It is a big gap, but not an impossible one. I know two very happy marriages among my close friends with gaps of 15 years and 22 years. The man is the older partner in both cases, in the former they met when she was in her 20s, in the latter when she was 30s.
Just ask her out. You don't know each other yet, so don't project into the future until you do.

[BeeRayKay]

C? Is that you? Haha a girl can hope.

[ISpidersmanYouMeanPirate]

Agree with closer

My Uncle's second wife is 20 years younger than him. he already had 3 (grown up) DC. She never wanted DC. Perfect.

[Scorpvenus1]

While I'm not actively looking to start a new family from scratch, I'm pretty sure if I was with the right woman then that's what I'd want

don't get involved and waste her young life. You had yours don't use hers up too!

[RottnestFerry]

don't get involved and waste her young life. You had yours don't use hers up too

It worked for me. Anyway, I expect the OP has sorted his dilemma one way or the other by now. This thread is four years old!

[1forAll74]

It's early days as yet,so see what happens,and go with the flow, Don't allow overthinking about things to cloud anything. You don't at this moment, know how things will pan out.so don't dwell on them.

In my opinion,there would be no problem with an age difference, as anything is possible with mature and sensible people.