Well that was hard-hitting wasn't it Biggedy!
I'd agree with a lot of it, especially the alexithymia notion, that men are prone to not be able to produce a description of how they are feeling esp at times of high emotion and will rather walk away from that challenge. And certainly that a cause of that is a discouragement to not reflect on our own feelings, and so not have a 'vocabulary' for them. I'd recognise that in me from time to time, where I'd take a time-out and order myself better when others have an easier avenue to how they express themselves.
The first 3 elements he talked of (sports achievement, money and sexual prowess) are a bit tricky, in that overall, women often give credence to those things too, with other things being equal. And those 'validations' are immediate and gratifying so become rather attractive, imo. They don't require much emotional effort, or challenge, but the 'rewards' are satisfying in the short term and when young that's the time period people tend to think in.
I'd also question the 'team' ideal of mutual respect and dignity bit. Successful teams do not have to even like other team members. Conflict is a useful engine to manage improved performance. As a manager/leader I'd spent waaay too long under this illusion, and wasted time in trying to resolve differences etc (and these are/were female-dominated teams). Until realising I don;t care too much about how/what you think of each other, only at how any of that impinges on the quality of service our client group gets.