My husband got me arrested for DV

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Hi everyone

This is my first time posting here.
I am hoping I can find some sort of solace here.
A month back following a heated argument I rang 999 for psychiatric support and also to report abuse from my husband. He constantly disrespects me and has abused me psychologically, emotionally and financially throughout our ten years marriage.
The police who turned up home did not ask me any relevant questions to my state of being then.
They interrogated my husband and his mother who gave them biased evidence and told them to press charges against me for assault as I pushed without any injuries him during the argument as a course of self defence when he came charging towards me.
I was in custody for the entire day after being arrested, and the officer who interviewed me asked irrelevant questions most of to which the free legal aid I had asked for, advised me to answer no comments.
At midnight the following day, I was released out on police bail with stipulations involving :1. not to enter my house , 2. not to contact my husband, 3. restraint order from him within 100m and 4. to contact my son via third party.
This was because he refused to retract charges.
I have got a solicitor now who has told me that I am still being investigated by police, who I have absolutely now no faith in considering the way they arrested me and managed to get brainwashed by my husband and his mother, because they have only taken thorough evidence from them and not me, and have gone off records to inform my work and my son's school that there have been previous patterns of behaviour, which as you can only imagine, is always a consequence of bilateral action-reaction (my husband loves to provoke me off guard).I have temporarily been suspended from work and its been more than a month since I saw my son who is non verbal autistic.
Needless to say, I am traumatised and low because of all this but trying to take it one day at a time, hoping justice will someday be served in right measures.
He is now denying me to see or spend time with my son, since he has upper hand in the case, playing the victim, as he is scared that I won't return our son back to him.
How can the police be so stupid to think that I will be calling them to my own house to get myself arrested and not take good supporting evidence from me.
Am I the only one to be facing such agony?
Anyways, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone x

[MiddleagedBeachbum]

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry. Sending you so much love and hugs.
I don’t know what to suggest but anything I can do such a support a campaign I would. Prayers to you xxx

[Fynetanksfather]

So sorry to read this OP, no particular advice but sending moral support

[Sunflower8848]

That sounds awful. I can’t believe the police did that to you. Especially considering YOU were the one that rang them for help! I think you need to get good legal advice asap.

[cordeliachaseatemyhandbag]

You need support from women's aid.

It is a very common tactic by abusers to make counter allegations.

Because he has his mum as a witness he has the upper hand.

Your word against both of them is unlikely to hold up in court unless you can provide some other evidence of his abuse.

You need to report to the police all his previous domestic abuse (this now includes coercive control).

You also need to take action to get contact with your son.

Are social services not involved?

Tell them everything and co operate with them.

Agree to supervised contact at the start if that's all you are allowed.

You may need 2 different solicitors to deal with the criminal and civil aspects of this.

Maybe post in legal matters?

[NFW12]

Hi it also happened to me married 28 years although not good in June 2022 was my first arrest based on lies. It resulted in me spending a night in a police cell quetioned the next morning and advised to say no comment like yourself. It snowballed from there. I was with domestic abuse and they advised me to leave the marriage. However, i felt trapped as he used my son against me. So stayed however he kept getting me arrested i was frightend to open up to the police as like he said they will not believe you and you will go out in handcuffs. I lost my business. I can no linger work due to my trauma and realising in my line of work i will have an advanced DBS so how am i meant to heal from all this.
i am too a victim of emotional, psycological sometimes phisical but mostly the mental part and also financial. I cant get a solicitor because my home is on for too mich money however i can with the domestic abuse sode of things. The police believed him as he was the one making the calls. I have evidence but the police dont seem to care at all.

[NFW12]

Hello