Hello, I’ve changed my name - though I’m not a regular poster anyway… still Mumsnet has given me much support and wisdom over the years and now I feel the urge to ask about something I’ve been mulling over for years.
I was sexually abused by a music teacher as a child aged 7/8. It didn’t last long - 6 months I’d guess. My parents called me into their room one night and asked if there had been any touching etc. I said no at first… to protect him…then went back in and told the truth.
My mother has completely blanked the memory and denies all knowledge of it. Insane, but that’s another thread…
My father and I did chat about it 5 years ago. I was upset it had been buried and never talked about. He remembered talking to the police etc. but I don’t know what they said and rightly or wrongly I want to know. It was a brief conversation. (My dad has Alzheimer’s now so…)
I want to know what happened to the man afterwards. I believe he had already been in prison.
Other student(s) had complained hence my parents being contacted and me being asked.
And so my questions:
If my parents made a statement (c.1992) would I be able to know about it and even read it?
Can I find out what happened as a result of him being caught abusing other students? Did he go to prison? Had he been before? (My dad said he thought so.)
This man is likely long dead but it has hung over my life and affected me greatly.
I’ve come out the other side of various addictions and overcome many things though emotional/binge eating still a problem.
But I still want to know.
Where do I start please? I’m not trying to report as such but discover more about my past.
Thank you for any advice.
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Historic sexual abuse - advice re:police reports
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Cambiatonome · 18/12/2023 14:35
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