My child has been accused of hitting a cat

[Refreshing]

My child has been acussed of hitting a cat by a family member that didn't see the cat get hit and just going of what they have been told from a neighbour that dosent know my child. They rang me to ask my child if he had kicked a cat and I told them my child hasn't been out and asked what day has this happned as we haven't even been home much the last week. The family member then tells me a couple days later it was my child a woman told her it was them and it was a stick they did it with. So I asked again what day it was and all I got back was why dose it matter what day it was. The story has changed 3 times in 2 days and we haven't been in much. my child is upset and has been crying because they said they haven't done it and I can't get a day of when it's happned so don't know if my child is lying or once again my child is just getting the blame and I don't know what to do.

[Georgeskitchen]

Tell them to provide absolute proof or go to hell

[Antarcticant]

Would such behaviour be in character for your child? And how is the cat - did it require veterinary attention?

[MissConductUS]

It's not a credible accusation for all of the reasons you state. I would give your child the benefit of the doubt unless he or she has form for doing things like this.

[Refreshing]

My child has never hate a animal and it would be very odd for him to do so he's no angel buy he loves animals

[Refreshing]

Hit a animal*

[Fladdermus]

Is it something your child would do? If it were said of my friend's kid I'd be inclined to believe it as he's a bugger for chasing my cats and has been caught using a stick to try and make them run, so he can chase them. (Yes his mum goes absolutely nuts at him when he does it.) My DS on the other hand would never do it, he adores all creatures and cried the other day as DH swatted a fly in front of him.

[AluckyEllie]

Tell your child you believe him and make sure he knows it and that he has your support. Ignore them

[Antarcticant]

@Refreshing

My child has never hate a animal and it would be very odd for him to do so he's no angel buy he loves animals

Then you have no reason to disbelieve him.

[Wolfiefan]

He’s no angel normally means he behaves really badly though.
How old is your child?

[Refreshing]

My child is 7 and no child is an angel and all children misbehaves from time to time I'm just trying to say I know my child sometimes misbehaves but hitting a animal is so out of character for them

[bellac11]

What do you mean by no angel, what does he do normally that would lead you to say that?

Is the family member making the allegation or is it the neighbour?

If its not true, why would this be said about your son?

These are the things you need to get to the bottom of. If its untrue thats dreadful but if its true thats even worse, hurting animals is a serious sign that a child is very troubled.

[Refreshing]

By no angel I just mean his a typical boy that can sometimes misbehaves gets told off and stops

[abovedecknotbelow]

Did he hurt the cat?

[Refreshing]

Not that I know off this is why I want a date to know if it could of been him because he's never did anything like this and not once mistreated our animals and all anyone is say was it was a blond boy (there are lots of blond boys where we live) and won't tell me when it happned

[bellac11]

@Refreshing

By no angel I just mean his a typical boy that can sometimes misbehaves gets told off and stops

Sorry Im trying not to be thick but what do you mean, describe his behaviours, does he break things, hit others, hit you, stamp and stomp

I dont know what typical boy means either.

[RedWingBoots]

If they refuse to give you details then believe your son.

And tell the person telling you stuff that unless they can give you a clear story with a date and approximate time they are mistaken, and need to leave your son alone.

[Palg68]

Ridiculousness I would of laughed tbh. So when the neighbour allegedly saw your child hitting the cat with a stick why didn't they knock on your door and speak to you about it at the time?

Poor cat 🤣

[Refreshing]

Dosent hit. Some times has a tantrum not very often at all though don't brake things just runs jumps climbs trees he's loud and sometimes dosent do as he's told

[Soapboxqueen]

Either this neighbour saw a child hit the cat and assumed it was your ds or your ds did hit the cat and he's just too ashamed to admit it.

(or the neighbour is a loon who made the whole thing up but that seems less likely)

Tbh my first question would also be 'when did this happen?' and if I couldn't get a straight answer I'd be inclined to disregard it. We had an issue with a neighbour on our estate as children who seemed to think every child she saw was my dsis (male, female, much older, much younger, didn't seem to matter) and she'd march to our front door to have it out with my parents.

If your ds is truely upset, I'd just leave it at that unless something else comes to light.

What has your relative said they want to have happen?

[Refreshing]

This is what I don't understand I was the last person to know none has come to speak to me all I had is a phone call saying ask him he kicked a can then 2 days later oh it was him he hit it with a stick and still won't give me a day it happned

[Readytoplay]

Um, while both morally terrible, physically there is a difference between kicking and hitting, as the motion used I done so by two different parts of the body that are nowhere near.


So just get this straight your son has supposedly kicked and hit a cat, with a stick simultaneously, whilst being witnessed by the neighbour, yet didn’t go out to intervene. The neighbour is also now refusing to tell you which day And can only describe your son as “blonde”

Yep op, I think we know the answer to this…

[Readytoplay]

Is not I

[Suprima]

I don’t know why posters are taking her son being upset and saying he didn’t do it as a sign of innocence- it might not be

I’d speak to the neighbour because your family member appears to be muddying the waters.

I’d imagine the neighbour didn’t approach you because she doesn’t know you, and may not have known how you’d react

[Wolfiefan]

Typical boy? That’s normally only used to justify violent or OTT behaviour of some kind. No one ever says typical girl??
I would be suspicious TBH. what reason would this person have for lying.

[Spinzy]

People get things mixed up all the time. Sometimes adults even lie because they thrive on drama and like to shit stir. I remember knocking on the door of an old lady who lived opposite us because we felt sorry for her. We'd seen her washing her front door that day and later on saw some teenage boys throw an ice cream at it. It was dripping down the door and making a big mess. We were proper goody two shoes children and thought letting her know was the right thing to do. She accused us of doing it, and then an older lady came out of nowhere and said that she'd seen my sister do it! We just stood there crying while these horrible adults told us what nasty children we were and said they'd call the police on us.

My husband also recently got accused of kicking a neighbours cat. What actually happened is that it was trying to walk down our drive, where they all poo, so we shooed it away. It tried to run past us so he put his leg in its path to make it run in a different direction. The owners daughter claimed that he'd kicked it and the owner started threatening us with violence. We've since found out that not only did we kick her cat, but that the cat was pregnant and subsequently lost its kittens (because of the non-existent kick). Then the story changed into the cat losing its kittens because it was run over (the implication being that it was basically kicked into the path of an oncoming car). Then she claimed that we tried to run them off the road because a few days later somebody must have been driving erratically and got too close to her car. So what seemed like a non-event to us (shooing a cat away) turned into this huge event where we killed kittens and tried to cause the owners to get into a car accident. They thrive on drama and the entire thing was fabricated.

There's absolutely no proof that he did it and it could easily have been another child.