Parent-shaming over sending children back to school

[KayBee183]

Has anyone else been on the receiving end of quite nasty judgement or shaming for saying they'll be sending their child back to school or nursery on 1 June?

Parent-shaming levels do feel particularly high at the moment...

Do you find it upsetting?

[TheSultanofPingu]

I wonder if they are 'judging' as they aren't 100% sure they are doing the 'right' thing themselves. So maybe they have decided to keep their child at home, but part of them wants them in school, or vice versa.
They are aiming to make themselves feel better about their decision I think. Some will just be nasty arseholes though

[NotGenerationAlpha]

However, it's true though that those having a SAHP or furloughed parent is doing much better than those with two in work during the lockdown. I'm a key worker and DH works full time too. I see on facebook and whatsapp all the home learning everyone has been up to. Forest adventures, baking, cooking, gardening, doing all the BBC bitesize work etc etc. It's just very different than those with stressed parents trying to juggle work and homeschooling.

It's therefore hard for those who can homeschool their kids with guidance from school, bbc bitesize and oak academy, to compare.

It's very one sided because no one is posting photos of themselves stuck in front of a screen or delivering parcels while the kids are watching TV.

[Floatyboat]

So many people struggle to weigh up and appreciate different priorities and just resort to black and white thinking. You see that on here with people seem to demand no loosening of lockdown until it's "safe".

[cologne4711]

Coronavirus has been an absolute gift to the type of people who enjoy nothing more than being self-righteous twats

This!

[cologne4711]

My kids have to go back (and have been back a day a week since after Easter

And are still in perfect health?

Don't worry about what other people think. You do what's right for your family. I always wonder why people are so concerned about the views of people they don't like very much.

[SueEllenMishke]

However, it's true though that those having a SAHP or furloughed parent is doing much better than those with two in work during the lockdown. I'm a key worker and DH works full time too. I see on facebook and whatsapp all the home learning everyone has been up to. Forest adventures, baking, cooking, gardening, doing all the BBC bitesize work etc etc. It's just very different than those with stressed parents trying to juggle work and homeschooling

This ^^

[BlingLoving]

It's weird. I'm sending DD back. I know lots of parents who aren't. And lots of parents who are still in two minds. I'v had rational conversations with all of them where we all agree we do what's best for us and our families.

But I suspect there are others judging away and not engaging in those conversations.

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Yes yes yes!- though in my case it’s nursery.
I’m seriously biting my tongue back. One mum is saying they don’t feel safe, which is fine except hey flew back from Asia in February and put their child straight back into nursery, and he had a cold. Guess her child is special!
Another mum said she won’t send her kid back until July- not sure a month makes any difference. Her kid starts school in September anyway so if she’s that worried she could just withdraw him.
Honestly I’ve had enough, my LO and I both need her in nursery, there were more cases here (London) the last few wks she was going than now.

[Somewhereinthesky]

It's about understanding and respect for other people's decisions, isn't it? Everyone has different circumstances so we can't judge others by our own perspectives. But some feel their decision is better than other, or want to believe it is, by voicing it. But I do feel sympathy for them too, because I think it's really tough to make a decision when there's so much uncertainty.

[TravellingSpoon]

I have had to mute our class WhatsApp group because its been full of judgy comments, calling those sending their children back 'selfish', 'idiots' and 'dangers'.

My 2 children are going back, DS is only 1 day a week, and DD is going back full time. I am a key worker so have really struggled with homeschooling, working full time and juggling everything else, including DS's SN.

When I asked what people think will be different in September, noone could answer.

[Underhisi]

I have to sit on my hands when I see those comments on local pages and they are coming from someone who I know has been breaking social distancing rules throughout.

[Epigram]

I think the people not sending their kids back are in a minority overall (although not in some specific classes). But quite a vocal minority!

[unchienandalusia]

One thing this pandemic has shown is how fucking stupid people are. How easily led and manipulated. Lacking in the ability to rationalise and asses.

Mine would be back in a heartbeat if they were in those years. But I wouldn't comment on anyone who quietly decided not to.

I'm appalled.

[Uhoh2020]

Theres a post being shared on Facebook the headline is along the line of "70 cases in France since schools went back". 70 cases out of 1.4 million children that's 0.005%! Yes it's sad there has been cases but jeez perspective! Total scaremongering by the media