Anyone have problems conceiving dc 2?

[lauraloola]

Hi, I read that it can be more difficult conceiving dc 2 then dc 1. It took us 18 months for dd and I would like a 2 year gap for the next.

I just wondered if there is any truth in what I read or if dc 2 is easier to conceive. Thanks x

[wheeldog]

Took a month to conceive DS (aged 16 months) now getting worried that we've been trying for 7 months with no success. In fact, I went to Boot's and bought an ovulation test kit today... in addition to the frigging tampons that I don't want to have to be using. Am I allowed to admit to using them or will I get beaten up for not using a Mooncup?

LL- clomid is a drug that stimulates ovulation

Good luck to all.

[lauraloola]

What is clomid? I have seen it on a few threads now.

[random]

Couple of months to conceive DD1 ..2 years and a bit of help from clomid to conceive DD2... DS3 a complete surprise 9 years later

[twoplease]

Hi, although I am by no means in the TTC#2 for a long time (currently only on 5th cycle), I just wanted to agree with two points mentioned already. Firstly that it is harder to make time for 'it' at the right time because of juggling commitments and having a DD who doesn't care that it is the 'right day' so wakes up just as you about to ....
Also, I agree that my cycles are different to pre-DD. I'm not sure i ovulate every month anymore and my hormones (measured by mood swings!) give me much worse PMS/Period pains than ever before. Not that this should interfere with TTC but it does if PMS kicks in early which it can!!

My DD is 4 in Dec - we didn't start trying earlier for all sorts of reasons but i wish we had now as i'm worried it could take quite a while.

Goodluck to all anyway!!

[KiwiKat]

We conceived the very first (and only, so easy to pinpoint) time we tried, so thought TTC dc2 would be a breeze. But we've been trying on and off for 8 or 9 months - am trying not to count - and this is our third month charting. However, am somewhat elderly (42) so that is probably a big factor.

That said, everyone is different. Best of luck to all of us.

[hattyyellow]

Was so utterly exhausted from our 3 in a day extravaganza! Can't see that happening again for a long time! When we got back home, my mum looked worried at my tired face and said " I thought you'd come back looking all refreshed!"

I agree that pregnancy does seem to throw your body out of whack. I also went from textbook 28 day cycles to very random ones which makes it a lot harder to do it at the right time.

[hattyyellow]

First time around, aged 29, concieved twins in second month we tried. Was under no pressure, had only just decided to try - all a bit of a suprise!

Second time around, aged 32, took nearly a year. Concieved a week after going to see the doctor to get referred for fertility testing and the acupuncturist to start the process of being "rebalanced". Think accepting things weren't working and giving myself a break possibly took the pressure off and helped things happen!

Second time around I think is harder as you have less chances/energy to get down to making that baby - if you're working more work pressure as you're combining career and childcare. When we concieved this time around my mum was babysitting the kids and we had a night away and managed to get down to it three times in 24 hours - something we certainly hadn't done in the preceding 3 years since having our twins! So i imagine that upped our chances that month too!

Good luck!

[PussinJimmyChoos]

I conceived DS within three months of trying...now about to start ttc no 2 and this thread has stressed me out..am already worrying about secondary infertility due to em cs that I had with DS...

DH has warned me not to get obsessed and was all when I told him I when I would be ovulating....

[CatherineMumsnet]

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[WorzselMummage]

dd 3 months
then 2 years ttc which resulted in a mmc
then 6 months this time, currenty 7+3.

[RipMacWinkle]

Suze - are you me? I could have written your first sentence!! Am also getting a bit obsessive and stressed about it.

Except DS is now 22 months and we've been trying for 8.

[mslucy]

5 months is nothing!

and 34 is young.

[spottyshoes]

Took 2yrs for DS so decided to try a bit earlier than we planned to for DC2 incase it took as long. Fell pg 1st cycle but had m/c. Then fell pg first cycle after that and am now 12weeks

[quickerthistimeplease]

Suze-don't get too despondent- 5 months is really no time at all (althpugh I know it must seem like it because you were so quick firt time around)and 34 is NOT old! (I am nearly 39-yikes). Most women I know have taken a minimum of 6 months. One of the reason's I was glad it happened quickly for me this time is so that I didn't get obseessed by it like I did TTC DD. I told myself I wouldn't this time around but I knew I would have done. Good luck.

[Suze25]

I didn't want to try too soon after DS as I didn't think I would be able to cope with two children so small. However in hindsight I wish I'd started trying when he was 9 months old. He's now 18 months.

I'm 34 years old so my age isn't a great help. Another reason I should have started sooner rather than later.

As the months have gone by I've become more and more obsessed, and yes, I do know this isn't helpful. I gave up work to be with DS and suspect I have too much time on my hands. I will consider going to the doctor but I thought I would wait for 6 months first.

[mslucy]

I went on the (mini) pill about 6 weeks after giving birth.

I'm certainly not doing that again.

I think you've got enough crazy hormone stuff going on after pg without adding the pill into the mix.

Good luck lauraloola.

[lauraloola]

Thanks everyone. I am so sad to hear that some of you had mc's after your 1st pregnancies. I suppose people think that if it was ok the 1st time it will be again. Dd is 9 weeks old now. I think I will start when she is 6 months. I am not going to go back on the pill as I had planned as Im sure that didnt help when ttc dd.

[mslucy]

Hello there.

I just want to say how much I totally sympathise with everyone on this thread as I had a nightmare conceiving no2. I got really down about, which again doesn't help, but what can you do?

It took me 5 months (after mc) with ds1 - now
pg after 2 years of ttc with no2 (after IUI).

I blame:

1. My age - was 34 when ds born; now just turned 38. So no spring chicken and this is a factor.
2. Stress of work - tried to hack it in a very demanding full time job with small child and very little support - ended up exhausted, mental and throwing in the towel.
3. Anxiety of ttc - made everything a drama
4. dh had low-ish sperm count, though this didn't seem to matter the last time.

Had help from hospital - IUI and injections - not sure if this helped or whether it was me working less and dh giving up the booze (and giving the swimmers a fighting chance)

Having said this, a friend of mine took 4 years to conceive dd1 (with clomid) , who is now about 18 months.She is due a week after me (in Feb) and it was a complete accident.

Like Suze25 and RipVan I dearly wanted kids close together, but ds will be almost 4 when the new one arrives. He will be in school (ie no double whammy of nursery fees) and I don't have to buy a double buggy, so maybe every cloud has a silver lining.

I won't tell you to relax because that will make you all collectively want to punch me (if I had a pound etc etc) but it might be worth looking at you and your partner's lifestyles and also having a few tests done.

Good luck

[RipMacWinkle]

I'm almost identical to Suze25 except we've now been ttc for 8 months with a mc in March.

First time was so easy, we were naive in thinking second time would be the same.

Like Suze25, had hoped for 2 year gap. THat's well up the swanee now. Now i'd just like another child - gaps mean nothing

[Twiglett]

yes

2 months for DS

2 years / referrals / clomid for DD

being pregnant throws hormones up in the air, when you're no longer pregnant they land again any which way .. or so my consultant said hence my development of luteal phase defect

you need to chart .. first day period, date of ovulation, date of sex for at least 3 months to check your cycles

[nowwearefour]

i reckon if you ttc within a year or so of dc1 it makes a big difference to speed of conception

[QueenyEisGotTheBall]

i TTC for 10 cycles with DD and we are up to lucky number 10 again as of today() and still trying it is a myth that number 2 etc is easier to fall preg with than the first. i have had 2 MCs along the way this time round aswell so it has NOT been a walk in the park by any measure
good luck with TTC
xx ei xx