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TTC #2 - please help with a few basic questions!!!

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happynappies · 08/01/2008 13:46

My dd is 13 months now, and we want to start ttc 'after Xmas' which is looking more like being April/May time at the moment. My questions are:

  1. are there any good websites that tell you when the best time is to actually ttc? I've found ones that tell you a broad spread of dates to try - but when is the optimum time?


  1. on the ttc threads there is a lot of mention of cycles and CD etc. Can anyone give me an idiots guide to what it all actually means?


  1. Apart from taking folic acid, is there anything else I can be doing to prepare myself for ttc? I had a really difficult pg and labour last time, and am determined that things are going to be different this time.


Thanks to anyone who can help me out here. Feel like a complete idiot as I have obviously had a baby, but I can't remember anything and feel like I'm starting right at the start learning everything for the first time!!!
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elibumbum · 08/01/2008 14:03

I know what you mean. I've been re-reading all the books I had from last time.

  1. Baby centre website has an ovulation calculator - it worked last time and I'm using it again this time. It is just a guide so best to use it along side physical symptoms of ovulation!


  1. Haven't a clue what most of the abbreviations mean either!


  1. Pelvic floor exercises?
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FurtivelyPosting · 08/01/2008 14:06

Hi happynappies! The best advice I would give to you is to think about charting your temperatures and observing your fertile signs. As you're not thinking of actually ttc until April?may, it would be ideal to start charting now as you'll have a couple of cycles to build up a picture of when your fertile phase is and when is the best time to ttc. We're all different and every woman's cycle and ovulation date can vary widely - this is why it's good to chart because you can find out how your own body works.

There is an excellent site called fertilityfriend.com where you can find out loads about charting and use their software to compile your charts - the software even works out your ovulation date for you and can show you when you are most likely to be fertilew. There's even an online course you can do to ehlp you learn more about charting and how to detect when you're fertile. best of all, this is all free! You only have to pay for a membership if you want to join their forums (which you won't need to because you can come here).

If you can't be faffed with charting and temperature taking, you can always try just monitoring your CM (cervical mucous)- it's easy enough to do; just take a peep at your undies whenever you go to the loo, for example! Some women like to check their cervix for both mucous and it's position but you don't have to do this particularly. Basically, CM should go like this (I say 'should' because everyone's different); you start off dry after your period, then you start to feel a little sticky. Following that, you'll find your CM has become creamy (looks a lot like hand lotion). Then you should begin to notice watery and/or egg white CM - this kind of CM is the most fertile and signals when you have entered your fertile phase. Some women just get watery CM, others just egg white and some both. Also, some women can have as many as four or five days of fertile CM, wheras others just have a day or two. So, you should start having sex as soon as you notice the fertile CM, as this is the best sign that ovulation is approaching - your fertile CM will dry up pretty much the day after ovulation.

If you do decide to take your temperatures and chart them, it's wise to note that temperatures alone won't tell you when you're going to ovulate - only when you have ovulated. This is because you'll get a rise in your temperatuyres (a thermal shift) following ovulation. As your egg only has a life span of up to 24 hours, you really need to be aware of when you're going to ovulate so that you can make sure there are lots of sperm waiting to meet the egg on its release! If you wait until your temperatures have gone up, the 24 hours could have passed already and it might be too late for the sperms to make it to the egg.

I hope this helps and isn't too lengthy or bamboozling a reply! The fertilityfriend.com site is really, really useful and has LOADS of info on it that will help you. You should also post here with any questions because there are lots of people in the same boat as you who can help with advice or sharing their experiences.

Good luck to you - fingers crossed that a BFP won't take long to arrive!

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fruitloop79 · 08/01/2008 14:13

Hi happynappies

  1. I use this
  2. Cycles = What cycle you're on since TTC

CD = Cycle day (from 1st day of last period)
(took me ages to work it all out, there's an acronym list but not everything's on there)
  1. I think pregnacare has got all the extra nutrients you need for a healthy preg although I took it before and during my last preg and I got a strapping 10 pounder

healthy balanced diet's always good. Drink lots water etc..
get in tune with your bod so you know roughly when you ovulate to get the best chance.
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FurtivelyPosting · 08/01/2008 14:18

Whoops! Forgot the jargon busting!

cycle - your period from when it starts until the next one arrives.

CD - cycle days. CD1 would be the first day of your period and you just count from there. It's useful to count the days because it helps you to see when you're most likely to be fertile each month

CM - cervical mucous (as mentioned above)

OPKs - ovulation predictor kits. Can help you to see when you have a surge in the hormone that leads to ovulation.

Fertility signs - the basic ways of telling when your body is at its most fertile. The first and most obvious one is your cervical mucous; look out for when it is watery or resembles egg white (also referred to as EGCM) as this signals that ovulation is approaching and you are at your most fertile. It is also the best kind of CM for sperm to survive in while they wait for your egg to be released. The second sign is your basal body temperature (BBT) - this is your temperature as you take it as soon as you wake up eavh day; your 'resting temperature'. You should take it at the same time every day and before you get out of bed or do anything else. You should also make sure that you've had at least three hours of consecutive sleep before taking it. Chart your temperatures each day and look at the pattern - you'll have low temps while menstruating and before you next ovulate and you'll have high temps following ovulation. The temps will help you to see when you've ovulated (this is retrospective though and you'll need to check other signs in addition to temping, as explained above). The third sign is cervical position and texture. Basically, if your cervix is soft (feeling most like the lips on your face), high up inside your body and wet to the touch, you are in your fertile phase. If your cervix is hard (feeling like the tip of your nose), low down in your body and dry, then you are not fertile. These are the basic and most useful fertility signs to observe and monitor.

Can't think of any other abbreviations/jargon and I think I've gone on long enough as it is. If there's anything specific you want to know about just ask as there are lots of people here who can help.

One last tip - Taking Charge of your Fertility by Toni Weschler is an excellent book packed with lots of useful info which I think would be helpful to you.

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freddiesyummymummy · 09/01/2008 23:15

I used the Toni Weschler book (and software) www.tcoyf.com which was excellent. Found things out about myself that I never knew - like what was causing my migraines, what fertility signs to look for and would highly recommend it. even if you aren't into taking your temperature every day I'd say just do it for one or two cycles as you'll learn a lot!
It took 3 months to conceive DS1 and would have been a lot longer if we hadn't had all the info...

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