TTC First Baby! Anyone else?!

[Delilah7]

Hi Ladies.

Anyone else on their first cycle and TTCing?! I'm seeing all these beautiful posts about ladies getting pregnant and how they have bonded with people on here soooo, thought I'd make one at the start on my journey!

[BambiOnIce80]

@Delilah7 How's today going? Been thinking of you and sending positive vibes.x

[Delilah7]

@Simplethings121 Hi darling! Welcome. Thanks for such the kind words.
Just enjoy this time when there isn't stress and pressure 😂 we can enjoy this journey together. Any questions you have feel free to ask. I waffle lots of shit most of the time 😂 keep positive, it's the start of hopefully a lovely healthy journey xx

[Simplethings121]

Sorry i obviously have everything crossed for you all of course. X

[Simplethings121]

Hello everyone.
@delilah7 and @cookiewaffle (sorry im brand new to all this and im not sure how it all works)
Ive read through the entire thread and feel particularly invested in both your journeys being from the very start of the thread. I have absolutely everything crossed for you both.
Im only on cycle one after coming off microgynon 3 weeks ago and waiting for AF to be able to start tracking. Had my withdrawal bleed and already feel like its been ages just waiting so i cant begin to imagine how all you lovely ladies on here are coping.
Love and crossed fingers to you all. X

[CookieWaffle]

I'm glad I could help @BambiOnIce80! And I'm glad you've got something positive to look forward to should AF appear! I will definitely be waiting longer next time before I test....

[Delilah7]

@BambiOnIce80 I'll defo treat myself to some Ben and Jerry's!! My OH will eat it first if I don't!

[BambiOnIce80]

Ooohhh @Delilah7, you could go for a nice meal with your family, hit the Ben and Jerry's, go for a nice walk in this lovely weather... The alcohol free possibilities are endless! 😂 Spending time with loved ones is a nice plan 🙂

If I'm particularly crushed with disappointment on Saturday, I might include eating mussels and perhaps some blue cheese to my Sunday 'disappointment treat' plan 😁 It's better to laugh than cry 😄

[Delilah7]

@BambiOnIce80 that's a good question, I'm unsure. What do you think I should do?? I don't normally drink so my OH would be like ' what's wrong ' 😂 and I'd prefer to just avoid that convo as he'd be like it's only a few cycles trying waaaaah wah wah hahaa. On plus side I get to see my poorly grandad and mother father tomorrow so that'll cheer me up! It's weird as I just don't feel I'm going to come on. Even though I know I will lol x

[BambiOnIce80]

@RobynC19 well, that's good that GP has explained why there's no AF yet and what to expect. Also good they've written to gynae for any extra advice. Doesn't help you with the frustration, but at least you know it's normal for ladies coming off the pill.

@Delilah7 I'm better after @CookieWaffle saying about there not being much difference in symptoms. Made me stop and appreciate that there's no point obsessing over whether every little twinge is a good sign or a bad sign - there's no point in second guessing it! What will be will be! If AF rocks up on Saturday, then I'll be disappointed again... but it also means I can hit the gin cocktails on Sunday when DP takes me out on date night 🍸 Every cloud has a silver lining and all that 😉 What are you going to do to treat yourself if you're disappointed tomorrow?

[Delilah7]

@BambiOnIce80 thanks lovely. I hope so but I doubt it. How you feeling x

[RobynC19]

@BambiOnIce80 well apparently it's not that long some people go 6 months and this is early days seeing as I'm 26 my hormone blood tests have come back normal and recently off birth control I just have to wait though tbf he has wrote to the gyno team to see if they would suggest anything

[BambiOnIce80]

Maybe you're not out yet then @Delilah7 🙂 Could just be it was too early, even for an early test? Might be worth leaving it a few more days and testing again if AF doesn't turn up tomorrow (and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that it doesn't 🤞).

[BambiOnIce80]

That does help and thanks so much for being the voice of reason @CookieWaffle 💖 Why did mother nature have to make the symptoms of AF approaching and very early pregnancy pretty much flipping identical?!?!

[Delilah7]

@BambiOnIce80 so annoying as I have no symptoms or cramps of period coming tomorrow yet I'm going to come on and be gutted lol. X

[CookieWaffle]

If it's any consolation, last round I definitely felt I was out up until 12dpo where the cramps I was getting were really unusual and so I tested and got the faint BFP and even then was still unsure until BFP the next day. I'm counting on it as something I won't be able to tell again up until AF due day, so symptom spotting felt pretty pointless up until then.

[BambiOnIce80]

What did the doctor say @RobynC19 about you being CD65 and no period? It's all very well them saying there is evidence that you ovulated, but not explaining why you're CD65 and no period isn't helpful at all! I can totally understand why that is wrecking your head 😔

On the subject of having ones head wrecked, my resolve to not symptom spot this time round didn't last very long 🙄 I'm CD24, so AF due somewhere between Saturday and Monday. Was feeling mildly optimistic this cycle due to using OPK for first time this time round and getting BFP CD15 (I'd convinced myself that at 38 I'm perimenopausal, so was very pleased to see that I'm theoretically ovulating!) in conjunction with using Conceive Plus 'pre-seed' stuff for the first time. However, I'm already feeling the odd tell-tale sign that AF is around the corner 😒 I think I'll be joining you in being out very soon @Delilah7

[RobynC19]

So CD65 on cycle 1 blood tests back from the doctors second lot nothing wrong but still no period apparently I ovulated 40 days ago no positive pregnancy test no period so upset don't even feel like we are trying

[MrsSquidler]

Hi guys, not been on for a while. Tried to distance myself and try not to think so much about ttc and more just about having fun.
I'm so annoyed with myself though, I was due to ovulate on Saturday, but after going out for goodbye drinks with my work mates for my last day on Friday, drank waaaay too much and was fit for naught on Saturday, I feel like I've wasted a month for nothing!
We DTD on Thursday leading up to, and on Sunday so I'm still hopeful.🤞🏻

[Delilah7]

@ChaosMoon you just feel it though don't you. When you have a BFN and awaiting AF. X

[CookieWaffle]

@ChaosMoon it's funny that at 40 I hardly know anything about my body. I didn't even know I ovulated, that my temps go up and down through the month. My sister had endo so that freaked me out that I might not be ok. With my age and my weight already lowering my odds it was very relieving to find out that at least my cycles seem pretty normal, and with the bonus of an almost baby, I'm feeling that it's more achievable now. I might not say that in 6-12 months time...

[ChaosMoon]

@AmyLouise94 I'm so sorry to hear that. Yes, positivity it's important, but so is giving yourself time to grieve. Don't rush yourself. Just remind yourself of the light at the end of the tunnel from time to time and it'll get brighter when you're ready. You got pregnant once, so you can do so again. You will have your baby.

@Sessy19, @BambiOnIce80, that's so helpful thank you! Waiting until month 6 and playing the family history card makes sense... And if the gp won't help,this is a really helpful starting point.
@CookieWaffle I'm so glad everything's normal, even if they didn't do all the tests at the right time! How do you feel about it now? I imagine it would be a relief to know.

@Delilah7 sorry to hear that. You're not out yet though.

Love and baby dust to all.

[Delilah7]

@AmyLouise94 thanks lovely I'll bare that in mind. Now take some time for yourself xx

[AmyLouise94]

@BambiOnIce80 and @CookieWaffle thank you so much for the support. It's great you can come somewhere where people understand the situation. It can get lonely. Sending you both hugs
💖💖

[AmyLouise94]

@Delilah7 yeah I guess I need to understand that I can be upset about it all and give myself time. Yeah that's what I thought, I thought I'd conceive in no time. Yknow around the time of ovulation just don't like obsess over dtd as hard as it sounds, make it romantic as much as you can. The one time me and my partner just relaxed and it happened and so many people told me to and I never listened. I just tried not to make it a mission. You will have your time I believe you will!! Sending hugs
💖

[CookieWaffle]

Oh so sorry @AmyLouise94, I almost know how it feels after this week. I'm heartbroken for you. This is such a cruel journey xx