No longer ovulating at age 35... heartbroken

[Tibbycat]

Found out yesterday. We've just started trying for a second baby (DS is 4) on the 2nd December. I had a copper coil removed which is hormone free of course (the great benefit of them). From nowhere about ten days later I started with pain in my ovary area... went to GP, referred privately to gyno who I saw yesterday at the local Nuffield covered on my healthcare as I've had this pain recently, no possitive OV tests, night sweats for a long time, agonising boobs with the ovary pain and irregular periods - 27-4 days. Had the crappiest appointment and the last thing I thought would happen... 'I'm just getting old in fertility terms'. Every woman is different and sadly he suspects that I'm no longer ovulating, causing the folicals to swell up into cysts. It'll be confirmed Friday at a scan appointment along with treatment recommendations. Recommended to a local fertility clinic for support in trying for number two. Thinks chlomid may be the answer. Initial quotes for the tests and treatment are £900 but rising if we need anything beyond Chlomid or FSH stims. Their success rate is high.

I want Friday morning to be here so I know what's going on. Husband is very up for paying for the fertility but it's money we're saving for a life long home extension. Part of me thinks, do we give it until February. Perhaps I book an appointment for February... so I have one more month to test and try myself ... that is if AF shows up soon. The consultants words keep going through my head... he wrote my age at the top of his notes and put a huge ring around the '35', then unlined it. Every time he referred to my ovulation and how in terms of fertility I was old, he tapped the 35. Lots of 'don't delay', 'act promptly' and 'crack on with it' used... Husband is SO matter of fact. "Well it's not over yet, no point in feeling sad".... I don't think they get it. I feel a bit like the dream is over.. it's all going to get a bit medical and mechanical now. Just life though and I know it's all true... hard to hear.

Words of support and encouragement welcome. ☹️

[UnderbeneathsiesTheMistletoe]

Tibby, you need to take folic acid 800mg per day immediately to stop spina bifida. Also take fish oils.

I hope everything works out perfectly for you guys. Seems like you'll have to stop "looking" at your DH now unless you want a football team.

[iniquity]

Now you know why you are not ovulating!
I don't think 35 is that old anyway in TTC terms

[wineandsunshine]

Awww wow! Congratulations that's lovely news!!

[Alibaba2]

Yaaaaaaaayyyy!!!!

[kirinm]

Blimey Tibby - if ever there's a way to prove a doctor wrong, this is it! Congratulations!

[NotAQueef]

congratulations Tibby

[midlifehope]

And by the way, don't 'bless me' for knowing my body, that's condescending at best! I hope your not a doc! Your bedside manner sucks!

[midlifehope]

Can you find me a randomised controlled trial in a peer reviewed scientific journal that disproves homeopathy then? No, thought not. It's big pharma that spreads the idea that only expensive, toxic drugs work, for purposes of their own profit and gain. Don't have time for a debate or to perpetuate the hyjaking of this thread, but western medicine is not the only way. It's great - I'm not saying otherwise, particularly in an emergency, but for chronic conditions, complementary medicines have proved very successful. You have your opinion and I have mine :) I don't need to prove to you or anyone else how they have benefited me, I was just passing some helpful info on.

Anyway, congratulations, op.

[Tibbycat]

Right, went and bought another First Response one... another faint line

[sparechange]

You have no way of disproving what I am saying

Sorry to hijack OP's great news, and bless you for knowing your body, but I'm afraid it has been proven many times that homeopathy, and the sugar pills they dispense at great expense to gullible people, doesn't cure anything

You don't need to be a 'medic' to know that eating a few grams of sugar isn't going to make a blind bit of difference to your cycles.
The placebo effect of feeling calmed by the magic spells might, as heebie pointed out

It is more likely that in common with millions of women, it just took your body a few months to get back to normal after being on the pill. This happening at about the same time as you eating some sweets is a happy coincidence.

[MouseLove]

Congratulations!!!!! You're pregnant!!! No need to test again tomorrow that's a positive without doubt. Wait a few more days to test with a FRER as your hormones will have increased by then. Awww see!!!! Docs know jack!

[middlings]

That's definitely a line. Test again in the morning.

As a veteran of fertility treatment, you should never do the first test with a digital test. I didn't start using them until around 5.5 weeks at which point I used them every two days for about ten days and then had a scan.

But, if you're not, and as someone upthread said, have a set of eggs like a basket of old apples, be aware that all is not lost. I have practically no AMH, ovulate extremely irregularly, had multiple rounds of IVF to have DD1 and barely had to look at DH to conceive DD2 eight months later.

Good luck!

[midlifehope]

sorry Heebie - it actually did - despite what you might think - 2 times - once after pill and once after having DD2..... the night after taking it. You have no way of disproving what I am saying, even if you are a 'medic'. You know your own body.

[twentyeightt]

I think congratulations are in order!

[heebiejeebie]

I retract that -the placebo may well have helped with your stress levels which helped with your cycle.

[heebiejeebie]

No it didn't @midlifehope

[midlifehope]

what hippy said. Also try homeopathy - it gotmy cycle back after the pill.

[DatsunCogs]

I think yes too. That would be wonderful news

[MumOfTwoMasterOfNone]

Looks like a line to me

[Hippychic79]

I can see a line!
xxxx

[NiceFalafels]

That looks like a positive. Not an evap line. Test again tomorrow. If you do some research you will find that some tests are far more sensitive then others. I used to use Tescos own (not digital)

[ElspethFlashman]

I'd definitely test again tomorrow......

[sparechange]

I can see a line!

[Tibbycat]

Ladies help... were all my symptoms pregnancy??? Digital says no. This is a first response.

[NiceFalafels]

Ovulation prediction tests can be misleading I must say. Have you had a day 21 progesterone test? If so, what were the results? Needs to be above 30, although my private specialist liked to see them 40 +

I have 4 kids. My eldest was conceived without problem. The other three conceived with clomid. My periods had started to change slightly, I had cysts on my ovaries and my eggs weren't mature enough (day 21 progesterone test had scores ranging from 7 to 24). I had 3 cycles of 50mg clomid for x many days to conceive DC 2 & 3, 4 cycles increasing up to 100mg clomid to conceive DC 4. It's a magic tablet and particularly effective with women who need a bit of a boost. I have 2 friends (in late 20's) who have never ever had a period at all and clomid hasnt worked. There are other treatments available though and amazingly Both have got pregnant but it has taken quite a while. It's been a long journey.

Be patient. Expect any proposed solution to take months of TTC.