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TTC no 2 for older mums

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patkica · 01/02/2007 15:58

Hi, I am 39 and am ttc no 2. I had ds when I was 36 and got pregnant almost at once. I have heard so many statistics and scare stories that I am starting to think it will never happen again for me. We've only tried for one month and I think I may have had an early m/c so am feeling a bit sad. But I would love to hear from others who are in a similar situation or have been or have advice.

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bobbydazzler · 15/05/2007 15:18

Hi Claraq,

Thanks for the news, gives me hope .

Congratulations to you, you did get there quickly in the end with your no. 2. I am going into my 12th month now of TTC but it only took 3 months with no.1.

I hope you don't have anymore scares and all goes well for you.

I am currently 37 and hope that I will have managed to have a baby while I am still 38, we will see.

Take care and thanks again for the update on this thread.

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claraq · 15/05/2007 14:42

hi there
not sure if anyone is still reading this thread. I posted on it way back in Feb and thought I would update with the news that I am now pregnant - 10+5. It took us 5 months in the end, nothing really but felt like forever. I am 38, will be 39 when the baby is born, all going well (with the baby that is - don't think there is much I can do about gaining an extra year . Had a slight scare when I had some bleeding at about week 6-7, but got a scan and saw the heartbeat so hoping that everything is ok. Fell really grotty and can't fit into my normal jeans anymore so there must be something going on down there!
Good luck to all other older mums trying to conceive no 2,
Clara

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bobbydazzler · 30/04/2007 13:52

Hi Verso,

I posted on here when I think the thread had all but died.

Really sorry that you have suffered a MC.

I have read on other threads that unfortunately Patricka has also suffered one since she posted on here.

Wishing you well with TTC again once you have recovered from your MC.

I take heart from stories of older Mums who have had their children without problems so I am inspired by your Mum's story. Was she treated by the midwives/doctors as unusual at the time?

Take care.

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Verso · 28/04/2007 21:39

Is this thread still live? I'm not ttc at the moment - still recovering from the shock of a missed miscarriage (discovered at nuchal fold scan) two weeks ago - but hoping to start again later this year. I will be 37 in July.

Until the m/c I had blithely thought that since my Mum had my sister at 36 and me at 41 I wouldn't have any problems with a 'later' family... but the m/c has made me doubt that. I know it's very common to miscarry blah blah blah and I am very lucky to have one DD already (just turned two) but...

Anyway - best of luck to everyone ttc at the moment and congratulations, patkica!

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bobbydazzler · 17/04/2007 18:17

This is my first post!; i have been dipping into the conception site for the last 10 months which is how long we have spent to date ttc no 2. DS is 27 months old now. I was 34 when I fell pregnant with him after just 3 mths of trying Now 37. Naively assumed would be even quicker second time round but finding that not to be the case and emphathising with the messages on this thread re the agonising wait, disappointment when AF arrives (or Hartleys as my DH likes to call it). I am also taking heart from many of the comments on this thread and v. pleased about Patrika's news who started it all off. I tried to start the process of getting tested to see if all ok at 6 mths based on advice that GP's will do this when you are post 35 but my GP was having none of it and told me to come back after trying for a year so I am kind off resigned now to doing just that but I will go to a different GP in the practice as the one I saw (a male) was pretty uninterested I fear. Please keep the positive stories coming especially if you have been trying for no 2 for awhile and then get lucky . Gotta go as my DS was put down for late nap this afternoon and is still asleep at 18.17!!!! Does not bode well for bedtime routine tonight!

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patkica · 04/04/2007 15:19

Thanks a million. Very, very excited. I will be 40 when the baby is born. It makes me feel old but also incredibly young too.

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Mumfun · 03/04/2007 15:47

oh lots of congratulations Patkica. How exciting! Hope it all goes well!

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LittleMissLate · 03/04/2007 13:21

Congratulations and good luck ! Not ttc yet as only had dd 4 mths ago but will be 36 when we start trying for no 2 so interested in this thread. Fingers crossed it happens as fast as the first time (2 mths) as i have heard a bit about secondary infertility which got me worried. Hoping my cycle returns to normal quickly once I stop bf and the mini-pill - still not had AF but don't think that's too unusual.

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patkica · 03/04/2007 11:48

Just in case anyone is still here, I wanted to say that I got a BFP yesterday. Very nervous as it's early days, but very, very excited too.

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patkica · 27/03/2007 10:15

Thanks everyone for the happy stories and congratulations. I have several friends who've had good news lately. Two of them had kind of given up and then it just happened, but another treid for 2 years, hit 40.5 and insisted on clomid (sp). Got pregnant in cycle 1 with that. Have any of you tried it?

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lizziemun · 26/03/2007 22:16

I was 34 when i fell with dd but it had taken us two years for this to happen.

I am now 37 and pregnant with our 2nd. DD was 10 months when started ttc for number 2, she is now 3yrs old.

To be honest by last november i thought what the point it's never going to happen and we didn't do any bady dancing until dec 8th both a bit drunk after a family wedding and it just happened, i am now 18wks.

I don't know whether it was we were both relaxed, i mean got over the stress of it not happening or the time was just right.

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sideways · 26/03/2007 22:01

Thanks for sharing that mumfun and congratulations on your dd.

patkica - the drs said there was nothing wrong with dp and all my tests were good too. They have referred me to the hospital for a lap and dye (I think) and I will try and get that done in the next few weeks.

Part of me tries very hard to believe that it will be ok, the other part laughts out loud!

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Mumfun · 26/03/2007 21:34

Hi

You did ask for good stories. I had great difficulty having DS - took 2 years from when I was 36 to having him near to 39th birthday.

Then thought I was pregnant just before 40 - was so convinced that I didnt even take PG test. Then very late AF was a bit devastating. All this at New year time. Was very fed up as came to my 40th birthday and was not pg. But then fell pg 2 months after and had lovely DD just 9 days before 41st birthday.

SO it can happen. I had come to terms with fact that I might not have another - I think that helped me but I know its very hard to do. I was helped by fact TBH that some close friends havent managed to have any DC so I did feel lucky to have DS.

HTH a bit

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patkica · 26/03/2007 09:30

Hi again, what have the doctors said? My own GP told me not to believe what I read in magazines and to assume it would be ok so I'm trying to be hopeful. It's hard not to think about it all the time though. I'm about a week or so away from AF so am entering that awful waiting stage. Feel pretty sure I had period pains alread so not overly hopeful. DS keeps telling me he wants baby sister called 'monster'.

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sideways · 23/03/2007 14:15

I'm verging on CD1 - will either be tomorrow or day after.

Been trying for a year not, tests show everything normal, so not sure what to do now.

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patkica · 23/03/2007 13:13

Great to hear from you. I've been reading and taking hope from people's positive news. How are you? I'm 2 dpo, having bd'ed more than ever in my life this month. It's exhausing and not much fun really, but we reckon we'll get back to fun sex in the future sometime.

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sideways · 23/03/2007 11:55

Hi patkice, I'm still around

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patkica · 23/03/2007 11:54

Is anyone still here?

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fresco · 14/03/2007 06:44

good luck to you mamalex.i am sure that it will happen.xx

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mamalex · 13/03/2007 19:04

Hi, I just want to say that I had ds when I was well over 40 (42) and now that I am 46 and dp 43, we are trying for no2. It doesn't seem to happen easily this time, but I won't give up.Fingers crossed for all us all!

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sfxmum · 11/03/2007 14:23

hi all
we are also trying for number two, well sort of anyway.
am 38 dd is 21m.
i seem to be more tense this time around
good luck all

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fresco · 11/03/2007 09:52

patkika, you are never too old.its inside you are old if i may say.i am 38 now and ttc for no3 (dds just died at 10 weeks) but i am blessed with 2 girls.i started my family when i was 35 and for the last 3 years been pg, one after the other .if my plans go well, i hope at 39 i can have my 3rd and hopefully one year later a last one. my dreams has always been to have 4 kids.a lot of ladies here where i stay even get pg at 42/43.
MMK congratulations!! i am very happy for you and do hope things go smoothly for you hen

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twinklemummy · 28/02/2007 21:18

good luck

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Blessed2 · 27/02/2007 11:53

I finally decided to buy a clearblue fertility monitor! I'm watching a few on ebay - but the prices are exhorbitant!!! Still cheaper than buying it at Boots. I've already bought Clearblue Opk (digital) to use this month and then, hopefull - if not preggi - then the monitor can be used from end March/April. I'm getting on and if I dont have twins the I will have to get two dds plopped out within the next 2.5 years!!! I dont want anymore after 43

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twinklemummy · 26/02/2007 21:24

trying that now the debil not trying still no good

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