Recently stopped the pill - wanting TTC but no idea?!?!

[Dixiechick1991]

Hi,
I've recently got back from a holiday and we've decided that maybe we could TTC. I've been taking the pill for 10 years, stopped taking it on 16th August & got my withdrawal bleed on 20th August.
We've been to Florida so we're waiting for 8 weeks at least anyway because of all the Zika business. But just wanted to know, how do I count cycles? Do I count from the last day of my withdrawal bleed to the first day of my next AF as my first cycle and then wait another month to see how many days on average.
Sorry, I'm not down with the lingo of everything & not sure how to make notes of everything. I was thinking of just going with the flow, but that goes totally against my nature haha.

Anyone help with an idiots guide to trying?! And anyone have any experience of conceiving soon after coming off the pill.

Thanks

[Kaisha02]

My first cycle off the pill has been 25 days. I'm really surprised as my app predicted 28 based on the average, but I thought first month off would be really delayed. Slightly sad to see af in a way, but nice to know af is back pretty quickly. Hopefully next month isn't far off. Just so glad I was prepared! Definitely keep your accessories (pads etc, pair of big knickers) handy, I have mine in a pretty floral makeup bag in my bag. Thank god I had that today, I only pulled it together two days ago.

[Dixiechick1991]

I'm the same I wish I could remember how irregular I used to be.
Having a very broody day today - all over the Internet is babies babies

[Mistoffelees]

Aaww, don't start getting worried yet, definitely just enjoy DTD!!
So last few have been 32, 29, 28, 32 then 41 most recently!! AF length has also varied between 2 and 5 days, no idea what any of that means! I can't really remember what I was like before being on the pill, was so long ago!

[Dixiechick1991]

So what have your cycles been mistoffelees? I'm kind of anxious to see when AF will come for me...just because it always used to take me my surprise. I always remember slouching over a desk all of a sudden in high school, awful cramps, banging head & begging for the toilet pass!!
I just won't tell my DH - we can have little secrets I suppose.
Just talking to a friend about TTC in the future & said I wouldn't be looking at ovulation times etc as I can't rely on DH being here. So I'd rather just have fun DTD
Then I said who knows could be Christmas, could be next Christmas,
Could be never. And at that point I almost choked up thinking oh my goodness, next Christmas seems forever away...wait never is never and that could happen!

I've never been like this

[Mistoffelees]

I got af finally so DH's swimmers aren't equipped with tools after all, v frustrating though cos it now means my mostly regular cycle has been thrown all out of whack! I've told DH I'm on here Dixie he doesn't understand... his argument is that I'm not a mum

[Dixiechick1991]

My DH would mock me for hours if he knew I was on here, it's my secret venting place :)
Be sure to let us know how it goes if you decide to test!

I feel like Zika has just dropped off the radar (the same way Ebola did), it feels such a long time to wait to be able to try - still got another 5 weeks to wait to TTC if we're sticking to NHS guidelines
X

[Kaisha02]

I'm thinking about it all the time as well. I could test this weekend as af is due on Sunday but it's only my first cycle so highly I likely to be on the dates predicted by the app! The weird thing was I think I ovulated (based on symptoms I've never knowingly felt before) on the day the app said I would. So there's every chance I guess. Just don't want to get my hopes up and see a negative result.
It must be awful knowing you have to wait before you can even actively start trying :(
My dh would think I'm mad if he knew I was on here writing all of this!

[Dixiechick1991]

Hello everyone again!
I can't believe that I'm now constantly thinking about babies - this isn't like me.
I felt absolutely awful last night, sick & headache. My mum asked if I was pregnant - I wanted to cry and say "NOO I DONT THINK I EVER WILL BE!"

I think I'm just over emotional because number 1: were not even actively trying because of recently being in Florida so waiting on Zika wait.
Number 2: I've literally been off the pill 2 weeks

Anyone else feeling overly emotional or just needs to rant

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Haha! I just worry with husband on only £22,000 a year and me bringing in just£500 a month if I r eturned to work and paid out for childcare (fulltime) can we ever afford to have a baby?! Will there ever be a right time. Really gets me down.

[NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown]

I know. Hopefully this means we'll all be absolutely fantastic parents if we're bothering to worry about these things now!

[Sshsecretenclosed]

It's so tricky trying to figure everything out isn't it Nice :-(

[NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown]

Now three of my friends have announced their mid February babies!
I sort of want to rush into trying so that we'd then all potentially have children in the same school year, which I know is crazy.

DH is more broody than me so it's only me holding us back for a few months. But we've got the building work which will decimate our savings and my parents will both be working but my NHS mum is due to retire at the end of next year so it makes sense to try and wait a bit, I know it does... but then I'm worried it could take ages for us to conceive.

DH and I are only 28. Please reassure me that it's sensible to wait just a few more months and that even if it takes us a decade to conceive it's not the end of the world!

I've not even worked out what actual childcare costs would be (I live in a small village and enquirers would start rumours!) and I don't know what would happen to my job, it's not the type that's easily done part time :/

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Yes Dixie Chick that would be £500 of my wage remaining and then my husband's wage would be his full wage but he's not amazingly well paid!

[Kaisha02]

I've always been told there is never a right time, and I finally agree! We have decided to start trying and if it happens great. If we waited two years and it took another year or so to conceive I'd be pretty gutted.
Also, I'm 26 so if I did decide to go back to a full time job in a few years then I'd only be early 30s and have a lifetime of career still ahead of me if that's what I want then.

[Dixiechick1991]

secrets unfortunately I think that's everyone's problem - is that £500 after splitting it between you and your partner?
The whole system is rubbish, childcare is too expensive, but it's frowned upon to not go back to work. I think I'd have to rely on mine and his parents a lot but as they're only in their 50s they still work 3/4 days a week so it would still need some spending!
I don't think there's ever a right time, unless you're a millionaire or your husband is?

[Sshsecretenclosed]

I just feel like that too but when I've sat and worked out childcare costs if I returned to work after (prompted by a friend calculating hers!) - I would be working full time for £500 a month effectively. Having a child would make us super poor - but I can't be the first person to say that right?!?!!!

I'm soooooo broody which doesn't help!

[Dixiechick1991]

secret I don't think there's ever a perfect time. We said - oh well wait to til after the wedding, then he said oh well we should get a new house first & I just thought it'll go on and on. Once were in a new house it'll want decorating and then this and that. Before we know it years would
Have passed!

We just bit the bullet & said right I've come to the end of my packet that's it my body needs a break!

But I've had headaches and nausea/off my food since Sunday (when I would normally have started my next packet)

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Hi all. Ive even on the pill for ten years, married to husband for a year last month and feel like will there ever be a right time to ttc. I'm almost at the end of a pill packet and with a close friend being twenty weeks gone and making me very broody, I'm wondering is now the time?

I constantly worry about finances etc but not want to miss out on being a mum and I'm 29 in November. I'm also worried that periods will be unpredictable and heavy post pill. Any advice and support from you all would be so welcome xx

[Dixiechick1991]

nicecuppa hello hello! Congrats on the wedding, we got married last month and my hubby is the broody one (don't get me wrong I want to be a mum but he is shocking!).
Our friends have a baby and since they became a family he's been desperate!
I have a tub of folic acid tablets but knowing we can't try for another 6 weeks at least has stopped me taking them...should I just start taking them now?
rhodes it's nice that your mum knows your wanting to try, we've told no one because we're already getting pestered and just shrugging it off, I can't actually imagine saying yes we're trying. We'd never hear the end of it.

Currently looking at putting our house up for sale & finding another - but if something happened before we could move it would be fine. We live in a 2 bed anyway it's just not in the perfect area.
Blah - only 3 days until my husband is home, he'd think I was crazy posting on a forum like this.

[NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown]

They're absolutely tiny and come on a pack like the pill does with days of the week on (the purple is my cilest, the other is the vitamin).

They do only have 100% of the daily vitamin D though, and I know in America they recommend 300% so I might look at the pregnacare ones once I've finished the packs I bought. I'm just a bit clueless about what's important!
We're also doing house stuff and having an extension early next year, which I think I could cope with if I was a bit pregnant, but I wouldn't want to be heavily on the way. Hopefully I won't turn into a hormonal wreck and upset the builders!

[NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown]

They're absolutely tiny and come on a pack like the pill does with days of the week on (the purple is my cilest, the other is the vitamin).

They do only have 100% of the daily vitamin D though, and I know in America they recommend 300% so I might look at the pregnacare ones once I've finished the packs I bought. I'm just a bit clueless about what's important!
We're also doing house stuff and having an extension early next year, which I think I could cope with if I was a bit pregnant, but I wouldn't want to be heavily on the way. Hopefully I won't turn into a hormonal wreck and upset the builders!

[rhodes2015]

Hi nicecuppa,
Congrats on your wedding! We got married June 2015 and I really wasn't bothered about starting a family but it's just hit me these last few months, we ideally wanted to start in new year too as we have some expensive house bits to get done but my pill was up and I just didn't bother getting it renewed, so if it happens this side of Xmas then it happens and if it doesn't then I'm not too fussed.
Are the seven seas tablets big? I'm a bit of a wimp swallowing tablets, my mums found me some tiny folic acid tablets so I'm just on them for now but not sure if a multi vitamin would be better?

[NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown]

Ladies, can I join your club?
DH and I have agreed we'll start trying in the new year. We've only been married 100 days and it seems too early for us to try before then plus I'd hate to be pregnant over Christmas and miss all the wine and pâté!

I've started taking seven seas trying for a baby prenatal vitamins, mainly to feel like I'm actually doing something useful but I'm not sure what else we can/should do.

I've been on the pill 14 years so think I'll come off it in the next month or so and see how I go.

[givingitago85]

I found the easiest way was to use an app, there's plenty out there, Ovia is quite full on but even a normal period tracker will help if you want to be a little more relaxed with it. Best of luck!

[MrsToffee]

Eekk, will stock up on tests tomorrow!