Losing weight to conceive

[Sockattack]

Is anyone else on here trying to lose weight to conceive.

We haven't been using contraception for over a year and whilst we weren't trying we haven't been preventing either.

I saw a consultant in July and part of the discussion was about lack of ovulation possibly being due to my weight. So time to get fit and more actve.

Truth is a pregnancy at my current weight would be difficult anyway. Do I start using contraception in meanwhile. DP isbt keen on condoms and I'll never use hormonal contraception again.

[MummyBex1985]

If you want a baby then I'd be tempted not to use BC and just diet in the meantime. If your DH doesn't like condoms and you don't like hormonal BC then you have limited options anyway!

Don't forget that statistically you only have a 25% chance of conceiving each month even if you manage to hit your fertile window (which you might not do if you're not tracking) so you can always start temping etc when you've lost the weight and you really want to get on it!

[simplydivine05]

I did lose weight before trying to conceive. I came off the pill in Feb this year and started healthy eating at the end of march. I don't know if my weight affected my fertility as we used condoms up until July but like you, I did not want to embark on a pregnancy while overweight (I don't think my joints would have handled it!). I got my bmi from 33 to 27, so I'm still in the overweight category, but in a much better place. In the interim I am still losing weight while ttc.
It's catch 22 as to whether you hang on with ttc while you lose weight as it can takes months and months. You also have to consider how you would feel if you fell pregnant right now as it sounds like you don't want to just yet.
I've heard from a lot of people that even losing half a stone can kick start ovulation and you can do that in a month. If your bmi is over 30 it is always a good idea to try and lose weight before having a child, as it opens a lot of doors for you with regards to your care options during pregnancy and labour. Saying that, plenty of ladies have great pregnancies while overweight, so it isn't the be all and end all.
Good luck with whatever you decide x

[Sockattack]

If I got pregnant now I'll cope but yet it would be harder on the family.
However I'm also aware I'm not getting any younger and our children are getting older too. It really is catch 22

[simplydivine05]

I'm the same sock. My ds is 7 so a far bigger age gap than I hoped for and I'm nearly 31. Saying that though, there's 9 years between me and my brother and 12 between me and my sister. My mum was 37 when she had me (I was a bit unexpected!). My sister in law is 38 and has just had her third dc in December, so age does not have to be a factor. A lot say it is more of a factor than weight though due to decreasing fertility, however from what you have said your weight is affecting your fertility anyway. How about go on a healthy eating plan (loads of help and support in the weight loss sections) until Christmas and start ttc in the new year. You could easily lose two stone by then if you stick with it and that would make a big difference.

[Sockattack]

Thank you. That's really good advice.

Healthy eating and exercise needed!

[simplydivine05]

Go for it! The only thing you've got to lose is inches! I found ttc a big motivator for sticking with weight loss. I use my fitness pal to calorie count but if you mooch around the weight loss boards you'll find lots of ways people have successfully lost weight at a healthy pace. Good luck! X