Is planning for a baby always this terrifying??

[Wetthemogwai]

I'm bricking it!

I love DP, he's a wonderful dad and a brilliant partner. Our relationship is strong and we've survived more than our share of bad luck, particularly this year.

I recently miscarried an unplanned pregnancy and we both decided we'd like to actively try again for another.
I'm very excited and very much looking forward to having a baby with him. We both have children from previous relationships.

But, god, the pressure!
I feel like I'd be under so much pressure to make our relationship work. There's no problems yet but having a baby is such a commitment! Is hate for us to not work out and end up in a situation like I'm in with DDS dad.
And the thought of being a single mum to 2 kids is terrifying!

There are obviously the normal worries like health, finances, siblings etc but this seems to be an outstanding one to me. More than likely because of the awful mess I went through with my ex when dd was born.

How do I shake it? DP is nothing like him so my worries are pretty unfounded.
He doesn't know I'm worrying about it this much but I have mentioned it to him.

Is it always this scary? I'm so excited and completely in love with the idea but this is always in the back of my mind

[Bangonthedoor]

Just don't prevent and what will be will be

[Wetthemogwai]

That sounds like a plan bang
Just go at it and try to make a few notes and see what happens! :)

[Bangonthedoor]

God DP and I could never plan a baby!! We'd always put reasons in the way to hold off for just one more month....that's why we just 'don't prevent' seems to work for us!

I've always kept note of when we've dtd etc and my cycle days but we've never "planned". Psychologically this is the better option for us

[Wetthemogwai]

That's very true pis, we could have the strongest relationship and still end up apart. Who knows!

Thanks angel :)

I'm being silly to worry, anymore than normal anyway!
I love DP, he's a wonderful dad and will continue to be. I trust him not to hurt me or leave me high and dry.
Exp will NOT ruin pregnancy for me all together! I won't let him

Thanks guys :)

[angelaham]

I am scared too, scared of how we will be able to afford it, how il be able to go to work and juggle home life but I just know that having a baby is a lot of work but a lot if happy times ahead and my and my husbands life would be incomplete without that little bundle of joy, I am trying not to worry and focus on each step at a time , good luck and hope everything works out for you x

[angelaham]

I am scared too, scared of how we will be able to afford it, how il be able to go to work and juggle home life but I just know that having a baby is a lot of work but a lot if happy times ahead and my and my husbands life would be incomplete without that little bundle of joy, I am trying not to worry and focus on each step at a time , good luck and hope everything works out for you x

[Pisghetti]

I sort of know where you're coming from. Having been a single mum, I wouldn't deliberately put myself in that position again. However none of us have crystal balls so while it is sensible to question yourself about whether your relationship really can cope with the strain of a new baby, you can't really know what is around the corner.

Heaven forbid but DP could be hit by a bus tomorrow (really must start nagging him about updating his will....)

[Wetthemogwai]

Just me?