My BF and I have been going out for a long time now, but I have always had niggling doubts, and was never madly in love with him, just thought he was great and we got on well, I guess I would say we love each other but are not in love. He is wonderful and for that reason I've always tried to suppress my doubts, but now I'm seeing all my friends having babies and getting married and wondering why I just can't bring myself to do that. I don't know whether I'm just being a perfectionist and should be grateful for what I have, or if I should be brave and make the break, in the (vain?) hope of finding someone I'm crazy about. I know it seems very very selfish to be thinking this way, and I am messing around a wonderful man, but I just can't seem to make a decision either way. He is confident that what we have is great and that we shouldn't sacrifice it for the possibility of a Hollywood dream, I wish I could feel the same way, and sometimes I do, but then the doubts creep in again. Has anyone been in this position and can offer any words of wisdom?
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Thinkking of leaving a 'good enough' relationship at nearly 32, but desperately want kids, am I mad?
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qumquat · 09/01/2011 13:18
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