How much of Christmas stuff does your partner do?

[BlackBag]

Secret Santa for his work and sometimes gets the tree.

[ReshapeWhileDamp]

He lugs the tree to the car (actually no, that tends to be one of the tree men at the tree place). Ok, he lugs it into the house and lifts it onto the stand. Then holds it straight while I screw the clamps on.

Um. He gets the boxes of Christmas Stuff out of the loft? I'm really struggling here!

He does buy presents. But I've been buying most of them this year for DS, his niece etc.

He is rubbish about thinking up present ideas for his family and I have to press him to get something nice, if, for instance, I know a relative of his always gets us something special.

He does do much of the cooking, to be fair. We do the food shopping together.

[unfitmother]

Bugger all!
A bit unfair - he buys the tree and puts some lights up.

[ClaireDeLoon]

Chooses the tree (I'm rubbish at choosing), gets it onto the roof, get it up and decorated, inc retreiving decs from loft.

Moans about the fact I put my foot down to coloured lights.

Helps with cleaning.

Comes up with rubbish gift ideas for his family.

Buys me a present.

[nickytwotimes]

dh does almost everything.

i bloody love him!

[taffetazatyousantaclaus]

Gets tree and puts it up
Buys me a present
Whines about how much has been spent and then listens to everything that has been arranged, bought, prepared, cooked etc and then shuts up and leaves me to it

Works for us

[Earthymama]

It's so lovely to hear these stories, when things are shared in a way that suits everyone.

We do tree and decorations together (we were ill in mid-tree dressing and abandoned it until the next day!)I love this as when I was married I did almost everything on my own.

We share present duties, though DP does ALL the wrapping. We share the cooking too. We do get a bit narky though as we both no right, nothing that mulled wine can't put right
My son and daughter seem to have found trhe right balance for their families, too.

I was shocked to speak to a friend last Saturday whose partner had made NO contribution to Christmas at all, financial or practical!!

[Litchick]

We buy and dress the trees en masse.

Not been at the sherry, honest.

[Litchick]

DH does a lot of on line shopping for his parents and the children...but I wrap up.

I do the cards.

We buy the dress the tress en masse.

I order the turkey and would happily order the other food, but DH insists that we shop in rl. Quite why he wants to fight his way around M&S buying pickles and parsnips is anyone's guess.

[notquitenormal]

Puts the room decorations up (I do the tree)

Write the cards for his freinds & family (I never do cards...wasteful rubbish IMO)

Decides the presents for his family, me and DS's gift for me (I do my family, him and DS's gifr for him.) We work together on DS's gifts. I buy anything online, he buys anything from a shop.

For Xmas dinner he does the veg and the gravy. I do the starter, meat and pudding. We both clear up. We both clear up.

I wrap everything. He delivers.

He would like me to do all his thinking and organising for him, but he isn't daft enough to think I actually will.

[lucysmam]

Absolutely anything I ask him to! Apart from cook the turkey for Christmas dinner, because I like to be in control of what goes on in the kitchen, but he does help with the other stuff.

He shops, puts decs up, writes cards, takes dd1 out. All sorts

Oh, I don't let him near the cakes either, they're my thing to do that's just me, in the kitchen, with my Christmas cd on singing away to myself

[traceybath]

He buys my presents and I do all the rest.

But he works very long hours and I like doing all the christmas stuff.

[GoodKingSlubbersArseFellOut]

Buys the cheese
Orders the wine, port and fizz from the wine society
Buys one present (mine)

It's fine. He's at work all the live long day and I enjoy doing all the Christmas stuff.

[crazygracieuk]

He does
Secret Santa for his work
Buys gifts for me
Cooks Christmas dinner (One of the few times that he cooks)
Buys tree and decorates house
Goes to work so we can afford Christmas!!

I
buy gifts
do cards
organise groceries
organise children's Christmas social events

[marriednotmulled]

We discuss what DCs want and agree presents.

He writes cards for his family (eventually and under great sufferance). Does most of the cooking by choice. Buys my present after I have told him what I want and where to buy it- preferably online- which he will then ask DD to wrap

I do absolutely everything else.

His idea of Christmas is to relax and feed/entertain friends and family, the stuff I do is window dressing it seems. Happy to accept compliments for my mince pies and OCD tree though...

He's paying for most of it this year though so I can almost forgive him

[abgirl]

Nothing this year except buying and wrapping my pressies, but I am letting him off as he has been fitting our new kitchen every night for the last 2 weeks, and is now laying flooring in the hall and dining room. (I quite enjoy doing all the christmas stuff really)

[mamaloco]

only buy a huge tree... (small appart!)

[PandaG]

we plan what we are buying for who together, DH does internet shopping and I do most of the in town shopping.

DH gets decs out, we decorate as a family though I rearrange baubles once kids have put them all low in a clump.

We write cards as a family, all signing them, DH write envelopes while I write the personal note in the cards

DH does most of the wrapping, I do tags and ribbons.

I do all coordinating of kids parties, nativities etc. I also do all the making of presents for GPs, aunts etc with the children, this can be stressful and time consuming.

we usually go to family for Christmas itself, but I plan menus and do all the cooking around Christmas - he may do internet shop for it. I always make and decorate Christmas cake.

is a fair share of responsibilities i think.

[neverenoughMEtime]

Gets the decs out of the loft

puts the lights up

writes the cards for his family

buys quite a few gifts (well i do, on his card )

Then sits back and enjoys the yummy food and beer all over christmas while muggins here runs around like a loon trying to make everything perfect :)

Oh he is very good at putting toys together on christmas morning!

I let my DH off, he works bloody hard for us all so he gets to sit back and enjoy :)

[mummyplonk]

oh, and forgot the inevetable question at Midnight "Is this all the paper we have got left I havnt wrapped your pressies yet" so Mummyplonk gets Ben 10 Birthday boy paper

[comewhinewithme]

Actually he has bought me a Kindle this year so I will let him off.

[mummyplonk]

Dh keeps my sherry glass topped up whilst I frantically wrap stockings on Christmas eve and will occasionally say really helpful things about 9pm, when all the shops are close like "oh WE forgot to get AA batteries" and "Did WE get a present for (insert random person who we hardly ever see)"

But I do get brought a cup of tea in bed every morning throughout the year.

[BabyValentine]

Oh, and I sort all the social arrangements, posting of gifts etc...

[comewhinewithme]

He puts up the tree and decorates it (I hate this bit).

He will pick up some shopping if I give him a list.

He helps wrap presents.

He will sit telling his Mum all the wonderful gifts we have for his family and she will give him the "My amazing son" look.
He fails to mention that if it wasn't for me searching the net and high street for FIL's gift then he would be getting a 3 for 2 at Boots .

I did ask him to pick his Mum's gift up on Sunday a box of chocolates and some perfume.
He came back with a Dr Who Lunchbox and a sticker from Father Christmas after taking the 4 year old to the Grotto.

I am going tomorrow for perfume and chocs.