Harriett - just found this thread. How are you feeling about it all now?
I remember telling my mw to hit me over the head as hard as the worst contraction as I just needed to know exactly how much the worst pain would be I was so worried about it all.
You have had loads of great advice here. Try to remember that the actual labour and birth is only a tiny tiny part of having a baby - after nine months carrying this child and years and years of time to come, try to put it into perspective and see it as a means to an end rather than a huge event in your life. In realistic terms, we are talking hours, at the most a couple of days, not long when you think about it.
For me, it was the uncertainty of it all - how long, how painful, what drugs, water or not water, when to go to hospital, would I know when, what happens if it turns into a c section etc. etc. TBH though, it is not so important how you have a baby, just that you go through it and come out the other side with a lovely little baby that is going to rock your world.
Things that helped me prepare for mine -
write a careful and detailed birthplan, discuss with mw and dh/dp/friend. Now put it to one side and don?t worry if it doesn?t go exactly as planned, the process of planning helps you to organise your mind and consider options rather than set and limit your choices.
Enjoy your last few weeks being pregnant (if possible). Whilst the next stage is going to be wonderful, exciting and full of unbelievable love, it is also going to be full of exhaustion and disrupted sleep. Enjoy your lie ins, have breakfast in bed, long relaxing baths, a pedicure, manicure whatever you enjoy. Go out for the odd evening meal or visit to the cinema - it could be a little while till you do these sort of things for a while.
Take some photos of your growing bump - when you look at your jelly belly afterwards (will tone up honest) it will be great to remember, so quickly do you forget.
Prepare a relaxing cd of your favourite tunes for labour. It is nice to do something practical to prepare for the big day.
If you like aromatherapy, worth getting in some relaxing and uplifting scents such as lavender and chamomile. I really benefitted from adding lavender oil into my baths in those first early days as a new mum - promotes healing and is restful and relaxing.
If you haven?t done so already, plan and pack your labour and birth bag. I loved doing this and helped me feel much more prepared and less anxious knowing it was there for when I needed it even if the baby arrived a little early.
HTH - plenty other things but probably have bored you enough