Am in a state of crisis. dd is 2.5 and I am so desperate for another baby. But it's not a straightforward decision. I had bad pelvic floor problems after dd's birth - horrible incontinence which left me depressed and unable to enjoy large parts of dd's babyhood. With much time to heal and plenty of kegels, I've got back to near-normal. Still can't run, sneeze or cough without worry but that's MILES better than I was before.
I feel sick with fear at the thought of a second pregnancy. What if I get the same problems again but can't fix them through exercise?
I keep thinking that I can be a far better mother to my one daughter by being healthy than I could to two children with a severely restricted lifestyle.
I'm being torn apart by this. All my mum friends either have number 2 already or are pregnant. I can't bear this feeling of wanting a baby but not being able to take the plunge.
Sorry this is long - have had too much wine and am probably rambling.
Please tell me your stories, good or bad.
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please help - need to know the truth about bad pelvic floors and second babies
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pregnabrain · 25/08/2007 22:25
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