Hi, posted this in pregnancy earlier by mistake then realised this was where it should be! 5 weeks to go and I'm getting more worried as the days go by. Just need to let this off my chest. I even had a dream about the labour last week! I'm nervous but can't wait for my baby to arrive.
However, my dp (kids to another woman through section) and many of his friends have had wives/gfs that have had c sections through choice have been recently talking about how easy it is to have a section and that it makes no changes down there and they even used the expression "it could be a drain pipe afterwards, glad I didn't have to do that and don't ever have to again now I've got the choice"!!! I'm finding that these comments are making me feel even worse about it and I know I don't have a choice to have a section and to be honest don't really want one anyway, I don't like the fact they have these ideas of how downstairs area will be like that and it's making me feel extremely anxious about the birth, and any form of intimate relationship afterwards. I know downstairs isn't going to be the same, or even great straight away but doesn't change that much! But I know I'm going to want to be very distant with dp after the birth now due to these comments and even considering not having sex again as I'm scared he will dislike me and it'll be the end of us.
Me and dp have discussed labour and birth etc recently and he's extremely nervous and scared about this, he's never had to do it. I've done it before, but ten years ago and I can remember how painful it was, previous dp waited outside the room! And I feel like telling dp to do the same as I feel like he's worrying me more.
Sorry to have a moan, I just need to get it all off my chest. Nervous, anxious and scared :(
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tlnejntr · 04/06/2018 11:02
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