Katie, I've read quite a bit of research along those lines and that is actually part of my reason to want to have a ELCS rather than a VB in my particular circumstances but why I also fiercely support any woman who wants to go the other way, if she wanted. Women know their own boundaries best.
Radiostar, I don't want to be too confrontational over what you said, so I hope you don't think I am. Like I say, I do understand what you meant but I do think its incredibly important to be cautious about language around childbirth. It seems to be filled with emotive phrases and words that are often very loaded with judgmental associations. Words like 'normal' or 'natural' or phrases like 'failure to progress' etc. I could go on. Which I think are actually creating some issues around birth for some women.
I think its perfectly legitimate to worried about pain as it goes. Its not phobic, it may be considered lower level anxiety or may be considered not anxious at all, but it doesn't really matter, its legitimate.
And actually the wording of the NICE guidance does not require any level of anxiety to be deemed legitimate. Doctors are not really supposed to differentiate and place value as to what is a 'sufficient' level of anxiety when making decisions over this.
What it actually says is:
34 When a woman requests a CS explore, discuss and record the specific reasons for the request
35 If a woman requests a CS when there is no other indication, discuss the overall risks and benefits of CS compared with vaginal birth and record that this discussion has taken place. Include a discussion with other members of the obstetric team if necessary to explore reasons for the request and to ensure the woman has accurate information
36 When a woman requests a CS because she has anxiety about childbirth, offer referral to a healthcare professional with expertise in providing perinatal mental health support to help her address her anxiety in a supportive manner.
37 Ensure the healthcare professional providing perinatal mental health support has access to the planned place of birth during the antenatal period in order to provide care.
38 For women requesting a CS, if after discussion and offer of support (including perinatal mental health support for women with anxiety about childbirth), a vaginal birth is still not acceptable option, offer a planned CS
39 An obstetrician unwilling to perform a CS should refer the woman to an obstetrician who will carry out the CS
The wording IS heavily weighted to offer most support to those with anxiety HOWEVER if you look at 36 it also makes it clear that not all requests will be on the basis of anxiety presenting it as a possibility.
If the guidance is being followed properly you shouldn't have to 'prove' you are anxious or phobic as its simply not a requirement. I know the reality on the ground is that this is how it is being interpreted and implemented by doctors. And thats the problem. Its getting people to understand this and that personal choice alone, is considered legitimate under NICE's guidance and forcing hospitals to recognise this.
The thing you are most likely to fall foul of, from what you've said is, actually the last sentence of 35, where they say to "ensure that women have accurate information" as the hospital will say they do provide proper access to pain relief when in your opinion, you don't feel this to be to your satisfaction. They'll probably argue the toss over that rather than recognise you have a concern that they need to deal with effectively.
If it were me, I'd be looking for some way to back me up or make a case with - such as staffing levels either as a way to perhaps identify somewhere more likely to deal with pain relief or to use as a justification for my case. (Not that I like to find cracks in this policy stuff at all!)