I posted this here because I thought maybe others might have felt this and if I dared to post it anywhere else, I'd get a right pasting. I may get one here too but maybe it will be cream buns rather than flames?
This may sound strange but I'm feeling guilty about having had a very straightforward birth that went better than I'd hoped. I had a short labour at home and ended up with a lovely DD who is snoozing next to me. I am grateful for that, but every time I hear a story about how another woman had a difficult time, I feel like I did something wrong somehow and that if I say anything, I am showing off which I don't want to do at all.
At the same time, I sometimes feel resentful that my straightforward birth is put entirely down to luck, and not down to anything I or my supporters did. I'd like to believe it was a combination of luck and work.
Still, things even out, I suppose. I was 'punished' , if you like, by having trouble establishing bf. We spent a week in hospital as a result. She's a fine bf-er now, but I was terrified then.
I haven't articulated this very well, but maybe some of you might understand. Or am I a totally unreasonable, arrogant cow?
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I'm feeling guilty...
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mumwithdice · 01/06/2011 17:42
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